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#441993 - 07/24/13 09:32 AM A Girl on the Tram
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 766

Edited by concerned_husky (08/31/15 10:13 PM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.

"Only the solitary seek the truth, and they break with all those who don't love it sufficiently." - Pasternak

#441994 - 07/24/13 09:36 AM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
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Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 382
Loc: Western Europe
Great insight Husky!
Someone can tell you thousands of times, but you have to see it for yourself. I'm glad you have had this wonderful experience of just being in the presence of a young girl without all the negativity attached to it.

One of my dearest memories is with a young girl. She couldve been 5 years of age too back then..
Me sitting on a bench, she was sitting on a boat. We both just sat there and looked at eachother with smiles (lasted about 15 min i recon and even her parents joined in for the laughing session)..

due to therapy this memory came back and only now do i realize how precious it really is to me..
Trust me, you are worth it to love yourself!

I now know who I am - I've never been anybody else!

#442002 - 07/24/13 09:59 AM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3965
Loc: settling in the USA again
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

#442006 - 07/24/13 10:23 AM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
mattheal Offline

Registered: 06/10/12
Posts: 142
Loc: Ohio

You stepped out of your comfort zone and found more about yourself by doing so. That's healing brother. And while I may be wrong, I think the "goofy face" was the little boy inside you coming out to play.

Great stuff.
It's okay to find the faith to saunter forward
With no fear of shadows spreading where you stand
And you'll breathe easier just knowing
that the worst is all behind you
And the waves that tossed the raft all night
have set you on dry land
- The Mountain Goats - "Never Quite Free"

#442011 - 07/24/13 11:17 AM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
newground Offline

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Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 1097
Loc: michigan
so glad you had that experience husky it is amazing the things that we carry and don't even realize it
Either I will find a way, or I will make one.
Philip Sidney

#442019 - 07/24/13 11:57 AM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
unhappycamper Offline

Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 732
Loc: VA
A few years ago my wife and I were poking around some shops in a tourist area, and another couple came the other way pushing a little girl in a wheel chair. The girl looked at me, and I winked at her as she went past.

Her face lit up with a huge smile. What a wonderful gift that was!


#442023 - 07/24/13 12:24 PM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
Poorsoft Offline

Registered: 02/20/13
Posts: 163
Well done Husky! I have to admit ivr became much more relaxed around kids since I had this realisation of mine. Dont feel panicky, kinda like you said.

Though, I wonder if that fear was an internalised fear about our inner child being projected onto actual kid.

#442069 - 07/24/13 10:17 PM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
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Registered: 03/18/13
Posts: 162
Loc: Chicago
So proud of you. You will make a great father one day.

#442177 - 07/25/13 09:36 PM Re: A Girl on the Tram [Re: concerned_husky]
Tarobuns108 Offline

Registered: 03/20/13
Posts: 21
Loc: NJ, USA
What a great experience! It's hard to conquer the generalizations that come with our traumas. I know I still find myself actively fighting them sometimes. Glad you were able to do it with humor and infectious good feelings.
"Don't be ashamed to need help. Like a soldier storming a wall, you have a mission to accomplish. And if you've been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up? So what?" Meditations of Marcus Aurelius, Book 7:7


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