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#441409 - 07/19/13 08:12 PM Chatroom Addiction
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Edited by concerned_husky (08/31/15 10:16 PM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.
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#441418 - 07/19/13 09:12 PM Re: Chatroom Addiction [Re: concerned_husky]
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i would dare say that the chat room is by far a less harmful addiction than gambling.
that is assuming you are actually addicted to the chat room.
perhaps you are in transition, moving into safer behaviour patterns.
the chat room might be keeping you away from your "other (hopefully past) addiction".
eventually you may move on to some even more productive activities.
if you feel it is a problem, then it must be bothering you.
if it bothers you, then it is a problem.

try these cliché mantras.

self awareness, self regulation, self control.
self esteem, self actualization. that's our goal.
everything in moderation, including moderation.
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#441420 - 07/19/13 09:40 PM Re: Chatroom Addiction [Re: concerned_husky]
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Far less harmful, definitely - especially financially. I think spending more than half your waking hours on chat qualifies as an addiction. Years ago, when I didn't realize abuse was abuse - I used to be content all on my own just listening to music all night...I've somehow lost that independence/self-efficacy. I'd do anything to get back to that. The cliches you mentioned have lately escaped my conscious vocabulary - thanks for reminding me about them.

Came across this in the meantime -

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/internet_cybersex_addiction.htm
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#441421 - 07/19/13 09:52 PM Re: Chatroom Addiction [Re: concerned_husky]
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my wife thinks i am addicted to this forum, because i feel compelled to check it every few hours.
i don't agree.
the problem is, i can't express my true feelings around her or the kids.
i have already damaged those relationships unintentionally with my problems.
they have undeservedly endured enough of my wild ride through the wild side.
i have concluded that this website is a safer place to communicate the dark thoughts that dance in my psyche.
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#441427 - 07/19/13 11:05 PM Re: Chatroom Addiction [Re: victor-victim]
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Edited by concerned_husky (08/31/15 10:16 PM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.
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#441538 - 07/20/13 10:21 PM Re: Chatroom Addiction [Re: concerned_husky]
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#441552 - 07/21/13 12:19 AM Re: Chatroom Addiction [Re: concerned_husky]
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Husky. I had one of the best chats today in a long time. Only it was a face to face chat with my brother over dinner. It was a talk that I normally would have reserved in the chat room. I think the chat room has helped me reach out to my family and friends by expressing to them how I really feel. So don't worry about frequency or timeframes. Let the chat serve as a healthy function in building relationships with the people you care about . . . FYI the moment we got seated; the guy at the next table said,"I own a husky!" I immediately had a smile on my face.

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#442084 - 07/25/13 12:39 AM Re: Chatroom Addiction [Re: concerned_husky]
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I've overdone it in the chat room BUT I learned things I needed to learn much faster than if I were to post and wait.

I'm a chronic bad back pain sufferer so I have a whole lot of other problems on top of just being a CSA survivor/hopefully someday CSA Thriver.

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