I like that, Jude.
My father was the one who befriended another perp and invited him to join in assaulting me and my sister numerous times. I have no connection to Father's Day. I turn my head when I walk into stores and see Father's Day cards or signs. I keep him and the thought of him out of my mind in every way.
I DO celebrate the good fathers I know. The kind of guys I am friends with are SUPER-dads. They don't beat, they explain. They don't ridicule, they encourage. They don't banish, they respect. And their kids? They've turned out fantastic. Still kids, but fantastic.
Happy Fathers Day, Male Survivor Fathers!
I have taken to the stand-up comedy stage to educate other male survivors and those who try to love them. I blog about my isolated religious upbringing where physical and sexual abuse were commonplace and I serve as a facilitator of a weekly support group for men who have suffered sexual assault.