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#436816 - 06/04/13 10:42 AM Summits and plateaux?
Climb1975 Offline

Registered: 05/21/13
Posts: 21
Loc: Brit
That probably sounds like a very pretentious description for the simple question I have. I am in the earliest stages of recovery, or putting it simpler, of "dealing" with my CSA experiences. Everything seems to be going too well: I've levelled with my wife, from whom I hid years of self-destructive behaviour and secretive activities, I've started therapy, I'm taking myself away from certain things that could be harmless but for me aren't (like internet porn, too much time on Facebook etc) and, all told I think I'm much better.

But I can't afford to be complacent. I'm interested to learn of anyone's experiences of backsliding - starting well with recovery and then finding yourself going backwards. I want to know what to beware of. Thanks in advance for any inputs.

#436847 - 06/04/13 02:09 PM Re: Summits and plateaux? [Re: Climb1975]
unhappycamper Offline

Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 753
Loc: VA
It seems to me that backsliding is a standard feature of CSA recovery. It certainly has been, for me. Sometimes there's an obvious trigger (e.g., news story about an abused child, or yet another priest caught), and sometimes there's a cycle. I tend to regress when warm weather arrives, April or May in these parts.

It's hard not to be discouraged when bad feeling revive that you thought you'd gotten past, but you just have to get past them again. They're kind of like quake aftershocks--you have to expect them and have a plan. Peace, and keep posting!



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