our loyalties are strange things. I remember as a boy being so angry at my mother for hitting me and then when I looked down and saw the whelps on my skin I totally flipped and started crying because I knew if someone found out, they would take her away from me. sometimes it just doesn't make sense,though I will say this. when you are a little boy and there is someone who is kind to you ,you remember it. Even if it is not all the time. I think that whatever you do you should probably check with your hubby first. it is easy for things to get twisted. just my opinion.
Either I will find a way, or I will make one.