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#436393 - 05/31/13 10:43 AM Escaping vs. Facing Reality
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Edited by concerned_husky (09/01/15 02:57 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.
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#436403 - 05/31/13 01:22 PM Re: Escaping vs. Facing Reality [Re: concerned_husky]
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Sounds like quite an awesome trip! Its almost as if by visiting so many different places you were seeking something, some part of yourself, something that almost had to be done in order to free yourself from your own escapism.

This is progress man, but remember to take it easy on yourself!

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#436451 - 06/01/13 04:09 AM Re: Escaping vs. Facing Reality [Re: concerned_husky]
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Husky:

Reality and I have had an interesting relationship for many years. As a young boy, reality was something a little beyond my everyday experience. That is, the more adult world of responsibility and consequences made me curious, but it wasn't always possible to engage in.

Over the years, engaging with difficult realities has been a challenge. What you describe is similar, but it makes me wonder if, in the end, we don't face reality, but rather it faces us. In some ways your trip and return is an example. Back in a familiar space, reality looks back expectantly, asking us to engage with it. It seems to do so whether we like it or not.

Growing up, this request to be engaged with is something that could easily be applied to how my Mom would relate to me. When her demeanor told me she wanted to be engaged with, it would make me happy yet sometimes painfully filled with emptiness. Over the years the request became uncomfortable. Couldn't she find a way to get my attention in a way befitting a parent? It's not even clear to me what that means, but it would have to be something with a strength behind it. Because she seemed to need my attention and only my attention at times, my own energy level seems to have learned to expect a kind of restlessness, stemming from a kind of exhausting obligation to give and not receive in a way that feels right.

So, perhaps recovery indeed comes from within, by engaging with painful realities that are asking to be transcended through conscious and committed healing.

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#436475 - 06/01/13 01:48 PM Re: Escaping vs. Facing Reality [Re: concerned_husky]
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I have the same experience as you. I have some good enjoyable times and it feels really good but it also allows me to feel the stark bad feelings too. I avoided much through addictions that I am now putting to rest and there are ups and downs.

For me, when I stray to far from my recovery especially when feeling good there is a come down. I am learning the same lesson as you in smaller doses. Even when feeling good, I must try to keep one foot in real world.
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#436486 - 06/01/13 07:20 PM Re: Escaping vs. Facing Reality [Re: concerned_husky]
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Typing on my phone so i cant write a longer response but husky i know exactly how that feels. Ill have a good time for a while, come home, and it seems like things are so much worse than before i left. Wish i had advice to give, but hope it helps a little to know that i can relate.

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#436640 - 06/03/13 07:21 AM Re: Escaping vs. Facing Reality [Re: concerned_husky]
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Edited by concerned_husky (09/01/15 02:58 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.
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