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#436101 - 05/28/13 08:22 PM Emotional Maturity
Magellan Offline

Registered: 01/01/11
Posts: 1595
Loc: California
I'm in the middle of one of the most complex work situations ever, I think.

A mess has been created by double booking classes in facilities that I manage. This has caused multiple people to get caught in the fray and some people are exposed due to their making mistakes, or feeling like they are going to be victimized by the mistake.

Suffice it to say, I am surrounded by a myriad of different emotions coming from different people as a result of this and I'm navigating through this confusion by communicating and supporting and assisting however I can.

I'm surprised at how agile I've been handling this whole situation. Keeping in mind the emotions and ego of each person that I'm working with, while skating through the complex unresolved issue (as of yet).

Feeling pretty proud of myself.

#436121 - 05/29/13 01:18 AM Re: Emotional Maturity [Re: Magellan]
ThisMan Offline

Registered: 01/23/13
Posts: 778
Loc: upper south
Nice job, Magellan!! You should be proud of yourself for maneuvering through the maze of multiple human egos and emotions, ....and remaining calm. My hat is off to you, guy.
For now we see through a glass, darkly.

#436123 - 05/29/13 01:29 AM Re: Emotional Maturity [Re: Magellan]
Chase Eric Offline

Registered: 10/25/10
Posts: 2749
It's a good feeling, isn't it? What do you attribute it to? I've been in similar situations at work, and the usual saving grace for me is realizing (1) I didn't create the mess so I am not responsible for it, but even more (2) having the emotional liberty that brings - knowing I may be the best person to fix it precisely because I have no emotional investment. Not feeling you have to buy into everyone else's crazy can be a wonderfully effective platform from which to operate.

#436140 - 05/29/13 02:45 AM Re: Emotional Maturity [Re: Magellan]
mattheal Offline

Registered: 06/10/12
Posts: 142
Loc: Ohio
You are living up to you screen name - navigating the complexity. I love it.

Celebrate this success!
It's okay to find the faith to saunter forward
With no fear of shadows spreading where you stand
And you'll breathe easier just knowing
that the worst is all behind you
And the waves that tossed the raft all night
have set you on dry land
- The Mountain Goats - "Never Quite Free"

#436157 - 05/29/13 10:44 AM Re: Emotional Maturity [Re: Magellan]
OCN Offline

Registered: 02/05/13
Posts: 398
Loc: Western Europe
hehe nice story and i love the comments smile

Be proud indeed! smile
Trust me, you are worth it to love yourself!

I now know who I am - I've never been anybody else!

#436269 - 05/30/13 03:27 AM Re: Emotional Maturity [Re: Magellan]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 01/01/11
Posts: 1595
Loc: California
Thanks, you guys smile

I'm feeling good about how I've handled this. I was able to manage this! I was able to understand the emotions everyone was having, and respond in an intelligent and meaningful way, without having any anxiety about it.

This is a rather important experience for me to have; as I grew up feeling like I was autistic or retarded. That feeling was mired in the CSA symptoms of worthlessness as well.

This experience feels like a gift.


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