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#435429 - 05/22/13 07:34 AM A letter to my son
mattheal Offline

Registered: 06/10/12
Posts: 142
Loc: Ohio

I have learned more from you in the seven years you have been alive the anyone I have ever known. My Dad was not in the picture until I was 15, and I will probably always feel a hole in my heart for that absence. It's one of the reasons I want to be the best Dad I can be to you.

Shortly after you turned 7, my doctor put me on some new medicine to help me sleep. I took it exactly as prescribed, but had a very bad reaction. In the spam of three days I went from being me, to feeling like I would never be happy again. At some point during my reaction, I realized how truly perfect an innocent you are. I realized that although there are a lot of things you could do at your age, you rely on me and your Mom for almost everything.

It was sometime on the third day when it all came flooding back. I was seven when the abuse started, and I saw myself in your eyes. It's hard to think of your own self as innocent and helpless, but that's what I was. After 25 years of lying to myself, it was you my sweet sweet boy who helped me see myself.

I've learned so much about myself this last year, and while its been difficult, I know that untangling my past and finally dealing with these issues will help me a better man and a Father.

One day when you are older, I can share this story with you, but for now, I'm gonna make sure you have the best childhood I never had.

I love you son,
It's okay to find the faith to saunter forward
With no fear of shadows spreading where you stand
And you'll breathe easier just knowing
that the worst is all behind you
And the waves that tossed the raft all night
have set you on dry land
- The Mountain Goats - "Never Quite Free"

#435431 - 05/22/13 08:28 AM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6387
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
beautiful letter.
i know you mean it.
so will your son.

my children were all the inspiration i needed for many years.
they deserve everything we have, and stuff we don't have either.

all i had to do was everything the opposite of my parents, and my kids have lived the great childhood i never had.
your son is lucky to have you.


#435434 - 05/22/13 12:01 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
ThisMan Offline

Registered: 01/23/13
Posts: 778
Loc: upper south
Yes, Mattheal. A beautiful letter to your son. And you are a beautiful dad for loving him so.

For now we see through a glass, darkly.

#435440 - 05/22/13 01:42 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
cant_remember Offline

Registered: 02/26/05
Posts: 1070

Welcome to MS. What a beautiful letter. We are here for you when you need us.

I'll be just fine and dandy
Lord, it's like a hard candy Christmas
I'm barely getting through tomorrow
But I won't let sorrow get me way down.

#435451 - 05/22/13 02:14 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
Chase Eric Offline

Registered: 10/25/10
Posts: 2972
Quote: was you my sweet sweet boy who helped me see myself.

This letter literally brought tears to my eyes. One just rolled down my cheek. Thank you thank you thank you...

#435480 - 05/22/13 06:07 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
bodyguard8367 Offline

Registered: 05/16/12
Posts: 1159
Loc: ""

Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 08:35 PM)

#455102 - 11/26/13 12:10 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
une.vie.d.espoir Offline

Registered: 12/06/10
Posts: 178
Loc: Quebec-Canada
Whit love,

I hope you realized the letter you wright to your son, is you are wrighting also to yourself (your inner boy).

I have raise my daughter and she as show me lots of things i never suspected. She made me grow and strong in lost of way, but most she made me proud.

Please keep always this in mind. You are giving to your son what wen you were 7 had needed to have to be safe and bloom.


#455103 - 11/26/13 12:18 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England
Reminds me of that old C,S&N song: Teach Your Children Well

Teach your children well,
Their father's hell did slowly go by,
And feed them on your dreams
The one they picked, the one you'll know by.
I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

#455134 - 11/26/13 09:16 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
1lifenow Offline

Registered: 03/07/11
Posts: 437
Loc: west coast
What a beautiful heart felt message anyone can relate to whether or not u have kids.

I just found out from my ex about a week ago how my therapist called her in the worst of times And pleaded with her to not keep me from my sons lives, as it was the only thing keeping me in this world. My T never told me this but he was so right. It gives us a chance to tip the scales in our favour for a life so out of balance.

Then Last Xmas my son said to me " dad that was the best Xmas ever! ". Because of the ski trip I asked. " no" he said. " because you and mom don't fight any more and I don't even remember the last time you yelled at me". That was my best Xmas present ever.

Thanks for making my day mattheal !
The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. Dalai Lama

WoR Barrie 2011

#455138 - 11/26/13 09:34 PM Re: A letter to my son [Re: mattheal]
Banjo596 Offline

Registered: 08/20/13
Posts: 93
Loc: Ohio
Beautiful! Thanks for sharing.

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