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#434583 - 05/13/13 10:13 PM Hi All
Happythoughts Offline

Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
Hi, I just switch my name from Kann to happythoughts,, I just told my family and girl I know what what happen to me 40 years ago, pretty bad day, I did it thru email and I still don't know if I can look them in the face.. the weight of sham is on me.

#434594 - 05/14/13 12:52 AM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
newground Offline
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Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 1153
Loc: michigan
Hey man GREAT JOB! I hope you allow yourself to feel the pride you deserve for finding that kind of courage. I'm sure you are feeling a lot of emotion right now man but it will get better. just know we are still in your corner. you are a great man what happened does not change that in any way. Just breathe and then keep on going man you are worth it
Either I will find a way, or I will make one.
Philip Sidney

#434603 - 05/14/13 01:41 AM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Happythoughts Offline

Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
At work I basicly tear up all day, and get home and still tearing up.. hope it gets better...

#434604 - 05/14/13 01:44 AM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
pbert53 Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 576
Loc: Washington, USA


it took a lot of courage to make that post, and i am glad that you are here and that you will be able to find answers, friends, and good things for your own recovery.

good luck with the family thing.


If you cannot control what happens to you, you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

~ adapted from: Sri Ram

#434606 - 05/14/13 01:46 AM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Happythoughts Offline

Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
You know I am 50 years old and feel like I am 8 years old right now.

#434617 - 05/14/13 05:43 AM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4284
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
i know the feeling - sometimes i'm 6, sometimes 11, sometimes 13, sometimes 15 - all of those feelings frozen in time that could not be fully experienced at the time. i am looking forward to a reunion of all my younger selves some day.
How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?
Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....
Habakkuk 1:2-3

#434639 - 05/14/13 03:08 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England
Originally Posted By: Happythoughts
You know I am 50 years old and feel like I am 8 years old right now.

Hey, thats okay man. It will all come together for you. It took balls to "come out" like you did. Whatever the reactions you get from girl or family, you will know you did what's right for YOU. YOUR healing, YOUR recovery, come first from now on.

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

#434657 - 05/14/13 05:57 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6387
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
welcome to a place where you can express your self.
i pray you find comfort on these pages.

i, too, felt it was necessary to share my experience with my friends and family and learn to live with their various reactions.

just try to give them time and space to process your information. please be patient with them. it is hard, it hurts, but it helps. i hope my words make sense.


#434678 - 05/14/13 09:51 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
Happythoughts Offline

Registered: 05/12/13
Posts: 19
Thanks guys, hope it gets better

#434682 - 05/14/13 11:05 PM Re: Hi All [Re: Happythoughts]
rc1965 Offline

Registered: 04/23/13
Posts: 12
Just wanted to say hello.

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