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#434256 - 05/10/13 10:16 AM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
TMan1394 Offline

Registered: 04/15/13
Posts: 11
Loc: USA
Hey Lee,
I'm fairly new here but I can relate to your story. I taught Special Ed in a school for children with Autism and it was the best job of my life. Met some amazing students and their families and got to be a part of some incredible moments of my students accomplishments which still make me smile and get teary eyed. I also made a lot of life long friends when I was there and their support helped me a lot. I think character shows more than anything and from what I read about you and your story, your genuine desire to help and make a better life for your students is what you'll be remembered for.
My circumstances where a little different but it was the administration and the fact that this place I had loved became toxic. I had to put my health and healing first. I remember my last days and day very clearly now and you put your feelings and honesty into words better then I was able to even think to myself when I had to leave and was devastated, which shows your strength even in such a difficult period.
All I can say is the other brothers on here are right. Remember all the good you did for your students, remember it takes a lot of heart, work and compassion to be a great teacher and from what I've read I can tell you made a huge, positive impact in a lot of your students lives. Be proud of that. I don't know your life story but from the support you've received it sounds to me like your a true survivor and great caring guy. Take care of yourself one day at a time brother. T

#434258 - 05/10/13 11:11 AM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
bodyguard8367 Offline

Registered: 05/16/12
Posts: 1159
Loc: ""

Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 03:02 PM)

#434259 - 05/10/13 11:15 AM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 766

Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:14 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.

"Only the solitary seek the truth, and they break with all those who don't love it sufficiently." - Pasternak

#434261 - 05/10/13 11:40 AM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
Lancer Offline

Registered: 07/13/12
Posts: 901
Loc: Florida
Lee, I can't even begin to imagine the mix of emotions you and your wife must be feeling right now. I had some hope about the administration when they "apologized" on another matter a few months ago. But this situation with your wife really showed their true colors.

I'll just echo what many others have said about what the kids will have gained from both of you. And, in the midst of the pain you're feeling, it's something about which you can both be proud. fwiw, this administration will continue to reap it's own karma - about which they're likely clueless - probably in ways none of us can foresee.

Please keep us updated {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lee & wife}}}}}}}}}}}}}

#434267 - 05/10/13 12:49 PM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
ThisMan Offline

Registered: 01/22/13
Posts: 778
Loc: upper south

I am so sorry you have had to deal with the pain and emotion this situation has caused for both you and your wife. It is hard to turn away from something or the someones (your students) that you so dearly love. I find it inspiring to know that you are the quality of teacher that you are, and the quality of spirit that you encompass and let flow forth for us to witness. It touches all of us.

That comes through so clearly in the postings dealing with what they have done to you. How you thought of the students and continued through to take them to the production and the art shows. It shows the character of man that you are. And you were correct, the students needed you to complete that with them. They are the reason teachers teach. It truly brought a tear to my eyes when I read your private moment of the breakdown. I can relate to losing that trust in the school setting.

And I comment you for having your stopping point. Good on you for requesting the subs and letting them know that they have grievously injured both you and your wife. And by no longer being there each day, the children will also learn that people must be accountable for the damage they do by rumor to others. It is hard for you. And I am thinking of you. And I return the many hugs you have bestowed upon me. The best of the best.

For now we see through a glass, darkly.

#434270 - 05/10/13 01:55 PM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
cant_remember Offline

Registered: 02/26/05
Posts: 1070
((((( Lee )))))

You have been such a good responder to my pain here at MS, that I hate to see you in pain without any real means to help.

Other than, as our brothers have expressed above, to communicate my love for you to you and to let you know that there is rebirth in death sometimes.

Like Bruce Springsteen says on the Nebraska album:

"Everything dies, baby. That's a fact / But of everything that dies, some things come back."

We love you, brother.

I'll be just fine and dandy
Lord, it's like a hard candy Christmas
I'm barely getting through tomorrow
But I won't let sorrow get me way down.

#434427 - 05/12/13 12:15 AM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
focusedbody Offline

Registered: 02/03/13
Posts: 540
Loc: NY

Sorry to hear that all this has happened. It seems that you are nonetheless clear that it is not a good place to be anymore.

When I started teaching last year, there were days when it was all I could do to not fly out of my skin. There were so many feelings as I gazed into the faces in front of me, that I would lose track.

A good teacher gives all. In those moments when you really want to guide your students, you can be the most vulnerable. You (and your wife) need to be in a place that supports you. I hope you will find the strength and bravery to take the next steps to finding a place deserving of your courage.

Lose the drama; life is a poem.

#434522 - 05/12/13 08:23 PM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4166
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
Thank you, men, for all the kind words. I wish I had time to reply to you each of you individually - but we are getting ready to move internationally - by the end of this month. I was truly overwhelmed by the number of responses and the affirming, validating and encouraging messages. It made me cry all over again but in a good way. You are all amazing. I really needed that kind of support. It was very healing.

I feel honored to be a part of this community.
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

#434523 - 05/12/13 08:55 PM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 3696
I am happy that your wife was exonerated but feel pain that you have suffered and lost trust in the school. Anything to do with CSA only creates distrust and hurt. It has to be painful for you. Try to stay strong and this may be an opportunity for you to begin anew, leaving behind painful and hurtful memories. You deserve to be in a safe place.

Stay well


#467446 - 07/10/14 03:20 PM Re: my last day [Re: traveler]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4166
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
time for an update:

after the false accusations of physical and emotional abuse of a student against my wife were proven unfounded, we resigned and left the school, our home, and the country in Asia where we had been teaching. we also resigned from the organization we had been working for. the school has since broken away from the larger network that was controlling and mistreating the staff at the branch where we taught. they have instituted new , more fair and balanced policies. so some good has come of it.

we came back to the US a year ago and have been resting, recuperating, and healing. we have spent some good time with family and friends.

we had some counseling and career assessment. turns out we should be doing just exactly what we have been doing. so in March we listed with a placement service for international schools and started looking for new positions to fill. we were invited to come to about a dozen places - on every continent except Antarctica.

we have accepted offers in Africa that sound just right for both of us and have been preparing to start in August. If all goes well, we will leave at the end of this month. we are hopeful and excited and trying not to be overly defensive, but open to new friendships.

i have no idea how much access we'll have to internet - i hear it is spotty and power outages are frequent. so my involvement may be more limited in the future. but i will check in as often as i can.

a year ago i had no idea what the future held. the past year has been one of reassessment, growth, healing, clarification, changes, ends and new beginnings.

i am ready to move on.
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

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