Thanks lbcali. Never thought of it as DID before actually, will have to look into that. If it is, I guess integrating is the next step...
Don't jump too quickly to integration. If you guys are happy as is, no point removing that support just to fit into conventional frameworks. Integration is a good route for those who find themselves less fulfilled by being split, but in my case my life has been enriched by having a team.
Also, as far as whether or not it is DID . . . No one can diagnose you over a computer of course, but there is a difference between having another identity in your body and just having a system of self-support. A separate identity has his own motivations, own belief systems, and own likes and dislikes. He does not exist merely to make you feel better but also has his own emotional needs. A separate identity would not be able to lift you up all the time without having needs of his own that would have to be looked at.
What you have, Husky, sounds wonderful. To me (and again no one will be able to tell you definitively from across a computer screen), it sounds more like the self-love part of yourself manifesting itself. That's great and there's actually nothing dissociative about that. Dissociation is about part of yourself being somewhere else. This sounds more like just choosing to look at yourself with a different perspective.
There's nothing wrong with having DID. There's nothing wrong with not having it. I guess what I'm concerned about is understanding that solutions be geared toward actual problems. You don't need to integrate if its not causing you stress.
I have DID. Several of us have merged with others so our system is much smaller (edit: I should say simpler, "smaller" makes it seem like the merges made us weaker when they really made us stronger)than it used to be. But its really a case by case thing. And it is SO important to recognize the difference between a symbol and a person. A symbol represents something in your life, and sometimes it helps yo imagine yourself talking to that something. But a symbol does not grow by itself and has no meaning except what you give to it. It is ok to ignore a symbol for a while because it only is "alive" through the meaning you give.
Another person/identity may sleep for a long long time, but has its own needs and desires apart from you. He can be hurt by being neglected. If what you are talking to, Husky, is a representation of your own self-love -- cool, that's wonderful. If instead he is a separate identity, than you need to make sure that you are being a friend to him just as he is being a friend to you. Only you will know what that looks like, but its not fair to use somebody to make you feel better and then forget about them until you need them again.
And that's the big difference here which is why it is important to understand. Neither are bad, but they are very different. A symbol/representation is a tool to be picked up and put down as needed. A person/identity requires and deserves a two-way friendship.
Hope I'm not out of line here. I just know that my "friends inside my head" (one of many ways we refer to each other) have been hurt in the past by people who don't understand the difference between the two. I personally think DID is over-diagnosed so even though I have it I am always very careful to make sure people know its different from just having an internal dialog. This post ended up being much longer than I meant it to be so take what resonates with you and feel free to drop the rest.