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#431647 - 04/18/13 12:20 PM Hi Folks
jfy Offline

Registered: 04/16/13
Posts: 15
here's my quick story:

47yo male, 2x divorced, been in recovery from alcohol for almost 4 years. I knew something wasn't adding up, but i never could figure it out. Well, talking to my GF about the abuse she suffered as a child, and her recovery from it (she's also sober), it just blasted out of my mouth that i was sexually abused as a child! That stuff was buried so deep, i haven't thought about it in 35 years. It wasn't a family member that did it, so i guess it was easier to bury?

Well anyway, i've been going to a therapist i've known for almost 24 years (she got me off crack almost 24 yrs ago), so we've worked on it a couple sessions, i admitted to her and my GF that i experimented with homosexuality when i was a late teen, i was confused but didn't know why. Then i googled it, and WOW, was blown away, saw so many things that were adversely affected by the abuse, i really had no idea, but it drastically altered the course of my life.

So will be continuing to work on this issue, i'll be here reading and learning a lot. If nothing else, it gives me another platform to help others, recovery from alcohol (and drugs) has been a great platform, now i have another.

#431648 - 04/18/13 12:37 PM Re: Hi Folks [Re: jfy]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England
Welcome jfy,

Many of us here buried what was done to us as boys for years. 42 years in my case. And it also seems to be a common outcome to have used drugs, alcohol, and sex to help numb ourselves to the pain, anger, shame, and self-hatred that resulted form the abuse. I'm a recovering alcoholic with 16 years sobriety myself. Glad to have you on board.

The amazing thing about MS is that there are men here of all ages, backgrounds, sexual orientations, lifestyles, religions, and even from several countries. But we all have this one awful experience in common that unites us, and allows us to see that we're not alone in this. Heal well, and share when you feel comfortable. There's much to learn here and much to help others learn.

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

#431758 - 04/19/13 05:12 PM Re: Hi Folks [Re: jfy]
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Registered: 05/16/12
Posts: 1159
Loc: ""

Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 03:58 AM)

#433237 - 05/02/13 06:28 AM Re: Hi Folks [Re: jfy]
WriterKeith Offline

Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 980
Hi, jfy,

Glad you found us. We're here and we can relate. From there on, feel free to interact in discussion threads or chat rooms.


#434340 - 05/11/13 08:56 AM Re: Hi Folks [Re: jfy]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6387
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
i am happy you decided to share.
this site has been very beneficial to me, in some surprising and unexpected ways.
i hope it works as well for you.



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