But every once in a while he will hit me if he's real uptight.
lbcali, looking back at my OP, I got so wrapped up in the overall pic, I neglected the above. HITTING IS NOT OK
. Aside from the verbal, etc., this is the one that has me really concerned for you.
fwiw, I'd encourage you to do whatever you need to do - this is going to sound like a big step and it is - to immediately put an end to the physical danger. I hope you've shared this information with your T. You can involve the police (assuming you're in a town which respects gay people as equally as anyone else) and, with that, obtain a restraining order (which, yes, I've done in my history). If you need help or encouragement to do it, there are likely community resources to assist you.
Again, I can't emphasize enough I'm concerned for your physical well-being. "Oh, it's not that bad" is not an excuse. Yes, dear brother, it's breaking out of your comfort zone. But you don't have to do this alone.
Speaking of schadenfreude
, it was immensely satisfying to be seated in the courtroom and hear the judge sternly admonish the bully, "This is my
courtroom and you do not
interrupt me again. Do you understand sir?" This "tough guy" then sat quietly during the rest of the hearing, head down, never making eye contact. Nor did his attorney permit him to testify because he'd have to tell the truth. All the judge had was my testimony which he called "detailed" and "consistent". When the restraining order was granted the judge added, "Do you understand that if you violate the restraining order I will put you in jail for a year?"I'll echo ThisMan: "I took no one's advice because I was to embarrassed to tell anyone what was happening. And what did happen... for me, I waited too long.... Follow your instincts. Please."