I like your reply above. It's quite perceptive. It sounds like you were expecting compassion from him and obviously didn't get it. I work with surgeons, I'm a sales rep, and some of them are just plain batty. Good surgeons, GREAT surgeons, just not so much on the bedside manner. I'm sorry to hear your disclosure was treated like a random fact... it certainly is not just a random fact.
I am learning with my T what I can expect from different people in my life. I have just started dealing with the painful memories I've always carried with me and I want people who can help bring me up when I am down. As I learned this, it took AWHILE (I am very hardheaded
) I expected the world to stop and come support me. I expected everyone to be understanding and back off their expectations of me (what I later learned were expectations I perceived) Ultimately, I learned that I cannot predict anyone's response and that their compassion or lack thereof doesn't validate what I'm going through. I've freed everyone around me from any personal responsibility to deal with what I'm dealing with. Crazy enough, as I reset my expectations, I continue to share, I continue to receive encouragement. It's really kind of nice.
Your doc's response, or lack of a compassionate one, is certainly unexpected. But it certainly doesn't un-validate what you're dealing with. You are a strong man and so very courageous for telling him at all. You've helped me understand my various issues and have been a great support to me.
I wish the best for you as you work this out. You are an amazing brother and I'm glad that we've connected!