reading a post about workplace harassment, suddenly i remembered a place i used to work. i was in my early-to-mid 20s but looked younger. my immediate superior, the guy in charge of my department, was always bringing in snacks and sharing them with the other guys who worked there. there were usually only 3 of us working at a time. i got sort of an uneasy vibe around him but he didn't do anything but talk. sometimes his comments were kind of inappropriate, though. for some reason today i remembered the slang term he always used for the snacks - that i had never heard anyone else use - and looked it up online:
"pogey bait - noun Slang.
1.candy or a treat used to lure a child into a sexual situation.
"pogey bait, n. Pogey bait is military slang for candy or other sort of snack food. It first appears in U. S. Navy circles in 1918 as poggy bait. It’s still a current slang term, in use throughout the U. S. military. But what’s a pogey? It could be a reference to the menhaden, a fish also known as the pogy or moss bunker. Or, and I think this more likely, it could be related to another U. S. military slang term pogue. Originally, and the term is first recorded in 1919, a pogue is a young, homosexual partner. In more recent use, pogue has lost its sexual meaning and come to mean a soldier assigned to administrative duties. So the term might have gotten its start as a gibe at soldiers who kept such snacks, with their fellows jocularly accusing them of using the snacks in order to attract a sexual partner."
this is one of those times when i got freaked out in the present for something that happened years ago. now i wonder if i was supposed to be picking up on something that i was clueless about at the time. i guess i am glad i didn't get it at the time - it would have been pretty triggering then if it affects me like this now.
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"