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#426813 - 03/01/13 06:03 AM loanlyness and fighting
bass drummer Offline

Registered: 12/29/10
Posts: 27
Loc: new zealand
Its been a few months since i have been on here. I know when i need some male support i can get on here and they are around all the time. Just a little update on my fight i have moved out of the town from where my CSA happened and working with a T that i go to see every 4 weeks. I dont know anybody in this new town so there is nobody to talk to for 4 weeks the only person i do no is my brother and if you have read my story it makes it abit hard but we have a strong bond not sure if it is from what happened or not???????

Anyway it is very hard to be alone most of the time with no support on a day to day baises i have been trying 2 make friends but i dont trust males but i no u guys are there for me all i ask for is a bit of support and i would go on chat if my phone would let me

Thanks in advance bass

#426819 - 03/01/13 08:06 AM Re: loanlyness and fighting [Re: bass drummer]
peroperic2009 Offline

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3866
Loc: South-East Europe
Hang on bass drummer,
loneliness is terrible negative feeling.
Good that you reached out. We are here for you. I know that is not same to have some virtual buddy like we all are here but it is something that can help you to fight loneliness.
I was terrible lonely when I came to this city couple years ago, I didn't have any friends and it took me a lot of time and energy to get some.
It helped me that I started playing tennis and later I took course in slasa. After that I have many friends, I have opportunities to go out and do things that I like and with people that I know.

It is not easy and it is needed a lot of time, energy and courage.
I was sometimes felt like ill when I needed to go to some social event where I didn't know anyone.

Hang on my friend, you are not alone!

My story

#429440 - 03/29/13 08:16 AM Re: loanlyness and fighting [Re: bass drummer]
pbert53 Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 576
Loc: Washington, USA
Yes Bass,

You are in the right place to have friends with listening ears mate. i keep coming back to give support and a listening ear. There were a lot of good guys here that have come to my aid in one way or another.

It was great chatting with you the other night. i am so impressed by your steadfastness to your recovery. At 23, in this day and age, you are a great roll model and example to even us oldsters.

take care mate


If you cannot control what happens to you, you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

~ adapted from: Sri Ram


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