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#425517 - 02/17/13 12:14 AM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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The symbols are the key to all of this. Male - Female. Symbols and guilt about the pleasure. Good stuff to talk about with your T.
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#425518 - 02/17/13 12:17 AM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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And ultimately dressing up has got to be a lot healthier than the alternative...Talking with a T can't come soon enough

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#425569 - 02/17/13 01:46 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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Hay Irish, yes, this is such a worthy understanding.

Originally Posted By: irishguym
And ultimately dressing up has got to be a lot healthier than the alternative...


This was one of the things that saved you. Be at peace with it.

I was just thinking how I look for natural medicines befor pharmaceuticals, just because there are a lot of good natural ways that don't have the long term health risks.
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#425574 - 02/17/13 01:56 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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I try to be at peace with it but it seems like another avenue to isolation..

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#425575 - 02/17/13 02:04 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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Isolation? Do you mean because you do this alone instead of socializing?
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#425580 - 02/17/13 02:12 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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Ya just seems like something that keeps me hidden..alone

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#425586 - 02/17/13 02:58 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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So this has a big shame component?
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#425588 - 02/17/13 03:07 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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Certainly not as big as the other stuff but ya it's there-the fact that as a man I shouldn't have the fantasies that I do-and as a man I shouldn't have to dress away to feel comfort.

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#425591 - 02/17/13 03:41 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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It sounds like you are ready more and more to deal with the under liying abuse.
This other stuff is symptomatic. It will take care of its self. What happen, the csa, that's the real work.

Does your T do EMDR?
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#425596 - 02/17/13 03:56 PM Re: Searching for understanding [Re: irishguym]
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I'm not sure if he does

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