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#423501 - 01/28/13 09:25 PM Law Enforcement
sdc Offline


Registered: 01/14/13
Posts: 32
Maybe someone further along in this process can tell me if it is typical for law enforcement/investigators to lack understanding about male sex abuse victims and to lack aggressiveness in investigating and/or attempting to prosecute these cases.
I'm feeling like so many victims have to be retraumatized by the lack of interest shown by the police.
I experienced this today with my nephew and the police and not only was it surreal, but it was devastating.

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#423513 - 01/28/13 10:53 PM . [Re: sdc]
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#423554 - 01/29/13 09:56 AM Re: Law Enforcement [Re: sdc]
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Yesterday, my nephew did a recorded call with the perpetrator. I went with him for support. I thought the call went well. The perp never denied anything, however he did not openly admit anything. Yet, there was a clear implied understanding during the conversation. He asked if my nephew had gone to the police....who asks that without any reason to ask ? He gave my nephew his new cell number. He said many times they shouldn't talk on the phone. He told him to come to his work so they could talk in person and get a "plan".
The detective says he doesn't know if he as the "man power" to set up an in person wire tap. Then abruptly said, "if we don't get more on him, this case is closed". It was devastating for us and even more so for my nephew. I do not understand the response of the police.

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#423569 - 01/29/13 10:41 AM Re: Law Enforcement [Re: sdc]
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Originally Posted By: sdc
Maybe someone further along in this process can tell me if it is typical for law enforcement/investigators to lack understanding about male sex abuse victims and to lack aggressiveness in investigating and/or attempting to prosecute these cases.
I'm feeling like so many victims have to be retraumatized by the lack of interest shown by the police.
I experienced this today with my nephew and the police and not only was it surreal, but it was devastating.


YES! Its VERY typical! There are ways to help and change things for you and your nephew. I'm going to PM some questions for you.

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#423581 - 01/29/13 11:05 AM Re: Law Enforcement [Re: Still]
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Registered: 08/17/08
Posts: 382
This may be a long shot but you said you had a photo:

The National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) is dedicated to creating public awareness of the mental and physical harm child sexual exploitation causes to child victims, families, and society. NCMEC’s Office of Legal Counsel staff can assist with presentations to schools, town meetings, and other public forums regarding the investigation, prosecution, and prevention of child pornography and sexual exploitation.

Please contact NCMEC’s Office of Legal Counsel at 1-703-224-2150, ext. 6483 for assistance.

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#423582 - 01/29/13 11:06 AM Re: Law Enforcement [Re: sdc]
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Registered: 01/14/13
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I suddenly feel like I need to lobby for change ! Thankfully, I am able to advocate for my family...but not all have the ability to do that. Many families would be told there was nothing more they can do and they would just accept that as truth.

I firmly believe this male detective does NOT understand how a teenage boy could be sexually abused uncontested....I believe that will all my heart.

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#423583 - 01/29/13 11:08 AM Re: Law Enforcement [Re: sugarbaby]
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It may be a long shot, but I am willing to do it. I am willing to entertain and research every single idea that is given to me. I will not give up...nor will I be bullied by this police department.

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#423611 - 01/29/13 03:03 PM Re: Law Enforcement [Re: sdc]
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Registered: 01/14/13
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I realized today that I have to push forward by any means necessary...if there is a resource in front of me, I will use it, not fear it.

I did take the advice of sugarbaby and I filed a cybertip @ Project Safe Childhood through the Missing and Exploited Children's Cybertip Line. They will only take tips regarding nonfamilial sex abuse/exploitation, so I gave them the information regarding the images found on the perp's computer...it may result in nothing, but at least I know I sent them the information.

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#423661 - 01/29/13 10:38 PM . [Re: sdc]
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#423718 - 01/30/13 08:57 AM Re: Law Enforcement [Re: sdc]
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Registered: 08/17/08
Posts: 382
SDC - Did they refer you to anyone else?


Edited by sugarbaby (01/30/13 08:58 AM)

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