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#423898 - 01/31/13 05:49 PM learning much
Avery46 Offline

Registered: 09/23/10
Posts: 1243
Loc: USA
Today and other days as well but, especially today, I learned a very valuable lesson.

I once posted a lot here. I did so as I had no other outlet where I felt "safe" to tell others how much I was hurting. Well, I found other avenues to share locally and the sharing was not in away that some might think. And NO The sharing was NOT sexual. I say this because some might think so, as I have in the past.

What I found was the awesome power in the gospel of Christ. Some religions are NOT so bad. Many are. I understand others here were molested by clergy and I believe you when you tell your story. There is a great amount of "legalism" in the church.

What I discovered today that I wanted to come here and post about is: Other men here might not be able to really "hear" your story. And those men might be in a position of trust. Even though they are in a position of trust, YOU ARE VALUABLE. I found myself in a pickle here some time ago and believed I was too blame but, I learned today outside of being on here that I someone elses lack of boundaries and unkindness was to blame.

WE all are hurting boys.

Be well,
aka DJsport

#423903 - 01/31/13 06:28 PM Re: learning much [Re: Avery46]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3965
Loc: settling in the USA again
good to "see" you again, Avery. and to "hear" from you, too!
good points!
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

#423906 - 01/31/13 07:04 PM Re: learning much [Re: Avery46]
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Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3791
Loc: South-East Europe
Hey Avery,
good to see you buddy after some time wink
I completely agree: Every one of us is valuable!

Thanks for sharing with us your insight!

My story


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