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#368051 - 08/13/11 04:33 PM bodybuilding
thefutureorbust Offline

Registered: 04/24/11
Posts: 171
Loc: NC
I've been bodybuilding seriously since 1992, and I believe it prevented me from killing myself. It was the only thing that truly gave me self-esteem. I did it to attract girls, I did it to ward off bullies, I did it to belong to something, I did it to re gain a sense of control and power, I did it to be competitive. I've won two champion ship titles all natural no steroids. ANd I also love lifting heavy. My best in the big 3 were squat 455 x 2 315 x 20 and 200 x 50, bench press 415, deadlift 585..all at a weight of about 210. Im well respected in the bodybuilding community, I help other guys and girls prep for contests and I write a column on a bodybuilding web site. Its given me an identity that sexual abuse took away. Its been my one loyal friend. Has anyone else turned to bodybuilding, powerlifting or weight lifting to give them confidence, self-esteem and a feeling of purpose? its a beautiful endevor

"What does not kill me makes me stronger"

#368052 - 08/13/11 04:36 PM Re: bodybuilding [Re: thefutureorbust]
thefutureorbust Offline

Registered: 04/24/11
Posts: 171
Loc: NC
btw bodybuilding meaning standing on stage in posing trunks, not powerliftig where you lift weights in competition. Although both will do wonders for you. Bodybuilding is a little more threatening cause your fully exposed. But it helped me get over so many fears. There are alot of perverts in the industry where many bodybuilders do the "gay for pay" or pose naked crap but thats more in the steroid induced scene. The natural scene is WAYYY different.

"What does not kill me makes me stronger"

#368333 - 08/17/11 04:26 PM Re: bodybuilding [Re: thefutureorbust]
well-intended Offline

Registered: 04/15/11
Posts: 124
Loc: Belgium
The endorphin high is amazing. It's always been a way for me to temporarily seek relief from depression, but nothing more, really. I still hate using my body, I'd rather train my mind to get self-esteem and purpose.

#368348 - 08/17/11 10:56 PM Re: bodybuilding [Re: well-intended]
TJ jeff Offline

Registered: 08/07/04
Posts: 3594
Loc: Northern Wisconsin
yes - I started lifting in 8th grade because I was tired of not being able to defend myself - tired of being a weakling - tired of the bullying - I lifted all 4 years of high school even though I never played any sports (because I was working after school) - it gave me a great outlet for all of my pent up anger I was carrying around inside of me - and by the end of my highschool years I was pretty darn strong for my size (bench 250 - squat 375 at 180 pounds body weight)(wish i could say that I am still in great shape yet today - but I've got a rare form of Muscular Dystrophy to thank for that... - though I am still in better shape than a lot of people I know - heck, I don't know of many people with M.D. that work a highly physical factory job like I do)

I did have a guy that wanted me to get into the competitive circuit with him back when I was in the military - went to 1 event with him - it was one of those steroid scenes where they really did want you to pose "au natural" - was so uncomfortable i never went back...

Who will cry for the little boy? - I will... - Antwone Fisher

Abuse happens in silence/isolation - Recovery happens only when that silence/isolation is broken...

TJ's History

#368602 - 08/21/11 06:10 PM Re: bodybuilding [Re: TJ jeff]
thefutureorbust Offline

Registered: 04/24/11
Posts: 171
Loc: NC
you went to a bodybuilding contest where the guys were nude onstage??? I never seen or heard of that lol Bodybuilding has given me discipline and drive that flows into my day to day life. It gives me the strength to be assertive to get things done despite feeling bad and it allows me to form a bond with others that share my passion!

"What does not kill me makes me stronger"

#369103 - 08/30/11 07:58 AM Re: bodybuilding [Re: thefutureorbust]
1lifenow Offline

Registered: 03/07/11
Posts: 437
Loc: west coast
I love this post. I took up serious body building so late like everything else but the cool thing is it just doesnt matter. Like you I find it gives me an outlet for stress and is a way better way to express yourself than some of the alternatives we all know about.

I was into organized sports when i was younger playing college volleyball. I used to lift weights but nothing to heavy cuzi it seemed that everytime i started to lift heavier, I got injuried and frustrated and just gave up. At 40 my best bench was 315 which is not too bad for a guy who weighed 155 and 5'6'(I know i played college ball when they used to let really short people play, now i am not even tall enuf for a girls team but i digress).

Now at 51 i no longer do the stupid exercices we are all taught cuz they are not good in the long run. I do minimal range of motion exercises with very heavy weights. Leg press is 630lbs, bicep concentration curls are 80, triceps is 110 and bend over rows 120. No longer do i do any straight bar cuz the bench press does no rotation and is not good for your rotator cuff - its out, as are upright rows, military press and behind the back pull downs. Everything is not too deep , too high or even close to full range of motion. I have not had a lifting injury in 3 years, and at this age i look and feel better than i ever have.

The secret is just like when we need to listen to our little voice we need to listen to our bodies. If it doesnt feel right for you it probably is no good. Never get a guy named biff to show you the ropes,lol.

It helps you increase your endorphin levels, decrease cortisol stress hormones and is a way to increase testosterone which keeps all men young. I like what the futureorbust has to say. It has given me all the things he has said plus an inner peace knowing I am doing this to help myself when so many things i did in the past were so self destructive. If i miss 2 days i start jonesing for it,lol. How cool is that? 2 people asked me last week if i was 43, 'around that' i replied.

Would love you to post a link to your body building web site bustman.

The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. Dalai Lama

WoR Barrie 2011

#369172 - 08/31/11 02:14 PM Re: bodybuilding [Re: 1lifenow]
thefutureorbust Offline

Registered: 04/24/11
Posts: 171
Loc: NC
its an AMAZING enedavor man...when I prep for contests I love the small changes in my physique day to day...its exciting and fun! and I didnt know you were 51 man!!! lol I thought you were my age for some reason (37)

"What does not kill me makes me stronger"

#373384 - 10/26/11 05:13 AM Re: bodybuilding [Re: thefutureorbust]
Incognito Offline

Registered: 04/18/11
Posts: 105
I'm in the same boat as you but with the powerlifting route. Without weights, I am nearly certain that I wouldn't be here. Or if I was still around, I could not imagine the type of situation I would be in.

"If you're willing to carry the weight, feel the strain, push past the pain, and give more of yourself than others expect of you, the world is yours." - Dave Tate

#384348 - 02/05/12 12:20 AM Re: bodybuilding [Re: Incognito]
LandOfShadow Offline

Registered: 12/11/07
Posts: 684
Loc: Minneapolis, Minnesota USA
I've gotten a little interested in weight training to look good, be stronger lately but in high school, I didn't want that kind of attention.

I've tried to read a lot about it to learn how to do it. At 52, I've wondered if I could ever put on much muscle but some changes are encouraging. It's interesting to think of how it could affect my... confidence? ... self.

I've seen you have to lift heavy, eat right, and rest to get bigger. I'm just using some free weights at home.

Et par le pouvoir d’un mot Je recommence ma vie, Je suis né pour te connaître, Pour te nommer

And by the power of a single word I can begin my life again, I was born to know you, to name you

Paul Eluard

#385465 - 02/12/12 09:25 PM Re: bodybuilding [Re: thefutureorbust]
Sterling Offline

Registered: 10/25/08
Posts: 1952
Loc: Winnipeg, Manitoba,Canada
Hey I was wondering ..... okay for example ( man , am I
a wonderful writer , eh?!..I have a unique technique....anyway)
when I go workout ,,, I do everything... I don`t lift weights
using my legs... I am planning to UZ my legs for Kardio only!

Anyway let`s say I workout like crazy today.
If I want to armcurl tomorrow b/C I want to kill this feminine
crap in my mind and whatever-so I get pissed off!
People tell me it is good to breathe/exhale while I push or
whatever ...anyway ;damn I am good at going off on tangents!:)

So If I were to armcurl tomorrow and I worked out my upper body heavily today. Will this hurt my body?
I would like to biuld my arms ,,but I like the anger i put on the wights and get pissed off!

I need to be judious too! Sometimes I make little words come out.,, ah, shit..I dont`t
care but really , can you tell me if thisis a myth.. that you shouldn`t work on the same muscle group in consistent days..
I hate rules and I am just wondering..

wanting my friends to be the gym... Goran
i g=need help how ..

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