I don't like some too strict rules and terminology; maybe it would be better to choose terms that you like the most
Personally I'm trying to avoid term recovery and rather use "healing" as term meaning reclaiming our destroyed parts and integrating it in one true self.
And yes there are survivors who are feel good, positive and calm. But we are not all the same nor there is some magic key how to get there. One of good sides of this site is writing it out, sharing it with others and trying to learn/understand other' paths. We are here among other things to learn from each other.
I have to add that I'm sad when hear about "flacks" from other members. We all are the same and on same side.
I must admit that one year ago I've been asked for some advice that exceeded my knowledge of presented family dynamics and many problems there. I tried hard to help and give some concrete advices and by doing so I was not aware that I could be very wrong and not at all helpful.
Fortunately one very wise member sent me message explaining me how to be really supportive, he said something like this:
Be sympathetic, offer your experience with dealing with similar situations (if you have experience), but don't give direct advices what is necessary to be done or not to be done limiting thus person to whom we are communicating in unhealthy way.
This also includes advice on using terms and interfering how someone expressing self.
Our words should be supportive and liberating not otherwise.