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#421783 - 01/10/13 07:23 PM Told my parents and re-started therapy!
Robert1000 Offline

Registered: 06/27/12
Posts: 453
Holy crap. It feels good to be back on the site. Yesterday, I was walking through a lobby, just after 90 minutes with a new therapist (one who's practice practically describes me... CSA and all that bullshit), feeling very surreal and on the verge of chaos, but I'm in much better shape now, if only because I feel less raw.

And so I've decided to come back onto malesurvivor to share and seek support.

Also, last week I told first my father and then my mother the truth about what happened when I was a kid. It was pretty OK, as experiences go. I'm tougher than I used to be, so it wasn't a sob-fest. I just told them that I was about to freak them out, that the news was both a big deal and not that big a deal, and then I just explained what happened.

And so... here I am, trying to muddle my way forward.


#421785 - 01/10/13 07:49 PM Re: Told my parents and re-started therapy! [Re: Robert1000]
peroperic2009 Offline

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3866
Loc: South-East Europe
Hey Bob,
great that you re-started therapy, I hope you'll get along with therapist and get needed support from him.

Wow, you told your parents? That is great!
I tried to tell something to my father recently and just couldn't do it. There was too much shame and guilt for me so I was closed and just couldn't do it.

Keep sharing with us. Every single win counts in this battle wink

My story

#421807 - 01/11/13 01:38 AM * [Re: Robert1000]
Smalltown80sBoy Offline

Registered: 03/26/12
Posts: 2217

Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/29/13 06:00 PM)

#421862 - 01/11/13 08:55 PM Re: Told my parents and re-started therapy! [Re: Robert1000]
Robert1000 Offline

Registered: 06/27/12
Posts: 453
Thanks, Gary. Happy new year to you.

#421863 - 01/11/13 08:56 PM Re: Told my parents and re-started therapy! [Re: Robert1000]
Robert1000 Offline

Registered: 06/27/12
Posts: 453
And thank you, too, pero. I hope you had good holidays. I'm glad to be back, sort of.

#421935 - 01/12/13 10:28 PM Re: Told my parents and re-started therapy! [Re: Robert1000]
LazyPirate Offline

Registered: 01/03/13
Posts: 106
Loc: Ontario
Good job Bob! I'm no where close to being able to talk to my folks about it.
The Bluebird of Happiness long absent from his life, Ned is visited by the Chicken of Depression. - Gary Larson

#424762 - 02/09/13 07:31 AM Re: Told my parents and re-started therapy! [Re: Robert1000]
DavoSwim Offline

Registered: 02/06/13
Posts: 397
Loc: Midwest
I think about telling my folks what happened as a kid, but I'm afraid of their response. It would just crush them. It might help me to say it, but I'm not sure I want to subject them to this topic. I know they would feel guilty for not protecting their son, when there was nothing they could have done to protect me. They may be better of never knowing what happened.


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