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#420444 - 12/30/12 01:08 AM What is the dumbest thing you've been told?
Randy65 Offline


Registered: 04/14/12
Posts: 109
Loc: Alabama
I know that some people are trying to help or can just can't handle the CSA once it is revealed. I have had some strange things told to me and wondered if others have experienced the same.

Such as,
Your preacher can fix it.
How did your parents react when they found out?
Did you go to the police?
Are they (the perps) still alive?
Do you remember what they looked like?


These things used to really hurt me to hear, but I hope by sharing it will help others.
Thanks,
Randy
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#420446 - 12/30/12 02:15 AM Re: What is the dumbest thing you've been told? [Re: Randy65]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
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Loc: settling in the USA again
dumbest thing?

"just forget about it and move on..."
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#420447 - 12/30/12 02:21 AM Re: What is the dumbest thing you've been told? [Re: Randy65]
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Wife: "Does this explain why you don't wear nicer clothes? Because you're trying to keep men from pursuing you?"

She means well, she really means well, and for the most part she does well. But... oy!
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#420450 - 12/30/12 06:30 AM Re: What is the dumbest thing you've been told? [Re: Randy65]
Mountainous Buck Offline
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Registered: 12/15/09
Posts: 1631
Loc: Minnesota
"You seem to have a catastrophic fear of destruction"

(The therapist who spent months Ignoring all my PTSD symptoms.)
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It matters where you go" Frank Turner

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#420456 - 12/30/12 09:42 AM Re: What is the dumbest thing you've been told? [Re: Randy65]
Letourski Offline


Registered: 03/15/08
Posts: 304
Loc: Canada
"You must have liked if you kept going back."

Ex-girlfriend after disclosure.
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#420465 - 12/30/12 12:51 PM Re: What is the dumbest thing you've been told? [Re: Randy65]
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"If you continue to let your boyfriend do this to you, you'll become a homosexual - if you aren't one already."

... County Social Worker (who I took the city bus to see when I was 16). Yes - she actually said that. And yes - I actually believed her.
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#420476 - 12/30/12 04:34 PM * [Re: Randy65]
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/29/13 01:43 PM)

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#420477 - 12/30/12 04:48 PM Re: What is the dumbest thing you've been told? [Re: Randy65]
KMCINVA Offline
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I have heard some great lines, but on the other side I have heard some wonderful words of support--I believe the supporters have outnumbered the negative side.

However the negative comments are hurtful and show the character of those who spoke the words--

"report it and let's get some money from the church"

"no one dissociates from abuse, it is not real"

"do you think I am stupid to believe you were abused"

"your father was the abuser not the priest"

Just a few of the hurtful comments I have heard--yes they are dumb but hurtful.

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#420478 - 12/30/12 04:54 PM Re: What is the dumbest thing you've been told? [Re: Randy65]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England
"So somebody put his penis in your mouth, so what?!? That was years ago....just get over it"
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#420495 - 12/30/12 10:48 PM * [Re: KMCINVA]
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/29/13 01:44 PM)

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