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#420291 - 12/28/12 07:06 AM Online friends (anonymous)
lfp Offline

Registered: 11/02/08
Posts: 122
Hello guys, I really need your opinion.

I am in an online community (well, have been for 2 years) and I've liked the experience in general. Everyone is anonymous but I've gotten to add people in the 'real' world and even exchanged presents with them.

But there is one thing, and is that one of the online friends that I interact the most with prefers to remain anonymous. This person pretended to be a celebrity but then admitted to me that he wasn't. Sometimes I feel lonely or depressed and he is there to chat, he gives a lot of encouragement and shares interesting stuff. He says that it's nice for him to see me become the person I want to be.

While all this is not bad, and I'm not really sharing personal data like my name, address, e-mail (maybe some pics in the online community), this thing is starting to freak me out a little. Somebody's need to remain anonymous after all this time just feels weird to me. Now, this person has not asked me anything from my personal data either, actually most of it is just chit chat.

What do you guys think? I must add that I'm paranoid in general.
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#420294 - 12/28/12 08:31 AM . [Re: lfp]
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#420299 - 12/28/12 09:57 AM Re: Online friends (anonymous) [Re: lfp]
lfp Offline

Registered: 11/02/08
Posts: 122
Hello, thank you for your advice.

Well, he tells me he is also seeing a T, and has also given me good advice for example for dealing with anxiety and eventual depression. Encouraged me when a loved one passed away, and constantly tells me to follow my dreams. None of this is bad and I appreciate it, but it keeps making me feel weird at the same time. Sometimes I think about not communicating again, but that's rather harsh, I think...

Not only with this, but I'm generally cautious with everyone, almost to paranoid levels. In the outside world I've also kept myself away from relationships for several reasons, one of them is because I'm scared that by revealing aspects of myself, they will use that against me and then hurt me.

I don't know what to do.

Edited by lfp (12/28/12 10:52 AM)
Consider the postage stamp: its usefulness consists in the ability to stick to one thing till it gets there. ~Josh Billings.
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#420329 - 12/28/12 06:50 PM Re: Online friends (anonymous) [Re: lfp]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4097
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
lfp -

trust your instincts. keep yourself safe. preserve your anonymity and distance. there is no reason you should reveal more personal details to someone else who won't reciprocate. even if they do give "facts" how do you know it is true?

i guess i'm a bit paranoid too.
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

#420330 - 12/28/12 06:52 PM Re: Online friends (anonymous) [Re: lfp]
finallyopen Offline

Registered: 11/16/12
Posts: 69
Loc: Ontario, Canada
Hi lfp
Don't let one individual put you off .. there are plenty of us here who enjoy our anonimity (sp?).
I have managed to make a few good friends here - although I give them advice and they in return to me, I attempt not to get overly personal as it tends to be a trigger for some people and I would never want to hurt or offend.
Just keep goin brother and if you need someone to talk to .. I'm here
My Story :

#420333 - 12/28/12 07:34 PM * [Re: lfp]
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/29/13 01:39 PM)

#420338 - 12/28/12 08:45 PM Re: Online friends (anonymous) [Re: lfp]
Suwanee Offline

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Registered: 10/30/12
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Trust your instincts. Your are conveying this to us because somewhere, that small voice is speaking to you. There is nothing wrong with remaining anonymous for any number of reasons. Like someone else said, this person may be dealing with some demons. He may worry about privacy...but presenting as one thing and admitting to being something else is a red flag. It isn't a show stopper, but I would proceed cautiously and not be offended if he isn't ready to reciprocate. There is a reason for this---and you don't know what it is use caution.

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