Once I'd told my T the first time, I found it easier to disclose here - it was like going through a "real" process gave me license to say whatever here.
But definitely bounce any particularly squicky bits off a T way way way before telling a family member. There very well may be things that they don't need to know or that can be taken as implicit. The truth need not be fully visceral; we all have intestines but most people would rather hear of them as a concept than have them scooped out and deposited in your hands with all the liquidy shit sloshing inside. The people who can handle that are surgeons, they want to handle it and it isn't part of their home life.
I practiced with the T today on disclosing to my parents. She helped me really clean it up while preserving accuracy. I.e. "He forced me to perform oral sex" is what I will tell my parents and a less vulgar version of what I told my wife. Wife heard little of my emotional state at that time, parents will hear no such thing at all. None of them got the full sequence of words, actions, times, sensations - the full "blow by blow", pun intended (much to my surprise). Those can be implicit within the main story which is unpleasant enough. These are words, not pictures. Kids are told to "tell" - not to direct a movie.
When it comes to family I take the line that Churchill gave to Truman when it came time for them to reveal to their "ally" Stalin the successful American development of the atomic bomb;
"Tell him the great fact, less of the particulars."
Therapists get paid for this shit, and they knew what they were getting into. They get the full Grinching whenever you feel appropriate.
Edited by SoccerStar (12/04/12 03:06 PM)
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