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#417655 - 11/29/12 11:27 PM Effects of Sexual Abuse
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I've been thinking about discussing this topic at a general meeting for our local Men's Center: "Effects of Sexual Abuse"

What would you share as the top lasting effects of your abuse experience?

I'd say for me this includes:

1) addiction (alcohol/sex)
2) shut down emotions
3) lack of trust
4) body image issues/confused sexuality

I continue to heal and recover from these effects and more. I've found a lot of healing and support over the years, and feel like I have/we have only just begun making inroads into addressing this issue in the world.

Let me know your thoughts.
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#417656 - 11/29/12 11:31 PM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
traveler Offline
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good start -
i say YES to all the above.
i would add -
damage to self-esteem - distinct from body image and sexual identity and orientation issues.
lee


Edited by traveler (11/29/12 11:31 PM)
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#417658 - 11/29/12 11:48 PM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Number one on my list is the confusion of sexual identity which in turn leads to a refusal to accept oneself and ultimately shame and isolation. It all starts with the lost sense of that most intimate of personal identities.
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#417671 - 11/30/12 01:09 AM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
Magellan Offline
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Self loathing.
"Anger at life"
"Anger at the universe"
"Angry for being born"
"Feeling like a victim for simply being born"

I've had all of these.

I don't know why all that is in quotes. Oh well.


Edited by Magellan (11/30/12 01:31 AM)

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#417679 - 11/30/12 02:18 AM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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#417704 - 11/30/12 05:43 AM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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I can repeat some of the answers, and add a few...

Anger/self loathing - yup, me too.
Period of sexual confusion - yup, me too. (fortunately not nearly as bad as what some of the other guys here are struggling with)
Addiction - yes.
Fear of intimacy
Inability to trust
Need to always be in control
Depression (multiple suicide attempts)
Guilt, shame, feeling like I don't deserve to be happy.
Self-injury

And of course, my official diagnosis - PTSD, BPD, Depersonalisation disorder, Major depression.
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#417715 - 11/30/12 07:46 AM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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You guys have covered it all. Sign me up for the next train to the funny farm.
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#417722 - 11/30/12 09:54 AM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
whome Offline
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Hi There MB

Nice to see you back you've been away for a while.
I am glad that you are still in the process, and wish you God Speed in your healing.

I would like to add
"Rage"
"Homophobia"
"Suicidal"

Martin
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#417724 - 11/30/12 11:26 AM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
dark empathy Offline
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Registered: 11/26/07
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Loc: durham, north england
Hi buck.

Interesting question, I'll add some of mine.
A sense of worthlessness and hyper self cryticism that affects anything I do.
Recurrent bouts of depression even when there is little or no reason.
A struggle with becoming addicted to isolation.
Discomfort with any sort of physical contact.
Genophobia so profound it makes any sort of relationship an impossibility..

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#417779 - 11/30/12 08:42 PM Re: Effects of Sexual Abuse [Re: Mountainous Buck]
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Registered: 03/07/11
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Loc: west coast
Great thread MB

The inability to be me. Trust or accept who I was or even know who I was. The running away from my true self as I am in the present.

All the other stuff the you have all described followed as the result of the trying to bury any real feelings.

hugz grant
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