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#417206 - 11/25/12 07:39 PM A breakthrough: Personal Reflection and Projection
Jwmcd2 Offline

Registered: 10/04/12
Posts: 110
Well, during a long restless anxious night, with the help of one of the members here being patient but hard-hitting (cheers Alidade) I was able to figure some things out for myself last night.

Anyhoo, I basically figured out something. Don't read this and think of self-hate, but it's like I realized I'm the one that is being neurotic or making myself feel ashamed or disgusting when I think about myself in a sort of sexual manner, then I started to objectify myself too in paradox. I thought others were doing that with me, but it's quite possible I was polarizing what was really happening.

So in a sense, sorry if I ever accused you of making fun of me or degrading me... I probably wasn't thinking very clearly. I'm still learning I guess, but maybe a little advice for other people could help:

Know your mind might cause or create problems, but that doesn't mean you're something to hate-- it just means you can work on it and heal.

I know I'm being quite vague though...

#417217 - 11/25/12 10:24 PM Re: A breakthrough: Personal Reflection and Projection [Re: Jwmcd2]
Letourski Offline

Registered: 03/16/08
Posts: 314
Loc: Canada
In recent months, I have learned the same truth you have reached. The mind is capable of creating its own problems. My studies in neuro-science have given me the ability to understand that my mind and brain are not separate, but one and the same. My personal power lies in the fact that I can choose what I pay attention to. When my mind drums up negative talk or self hatred, I just tune out and check back in when the chatter has slowed down.

This might not be what you are referring to, but that's what I got from it. It's often difficult processing the old tapes playing on repeat inside our minds, but eventually we can learn that they are nothing but lies and conditioning. The product of the abuse. Heal well brother.

I am the warrior.

#417218 - 11/25/12 10:49 PM Re: A breakthrough: Personal Reflection and Projection [Re: Jwmcd2]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England

Any step in recovery is a miracle and you are an amazing man for what you've accomplished. Keep up the good work buddy.

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan


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