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#416933 - 11/22/12 03:05 PM Thanksgiving Thoughts
Chris Anderson Offline
Board of Directors

Registered: 04/22/12
Posts: 289
Loc: New York
Hi All,

Obviously Thanksgiving is a difficult day for many of us. The traditional idea of friends and family coming together can be triggering for many survivors for whom the home was itself a source of danger.

But while acknowledging that, I want to encourage us to try and take at least a few moments today to embrace one part of the Thanksgiving theme that I feel is worth celebrating. It is always a good idea to embrace and express our gratitude for those things in our lives that are good. Many of us spend years trapped in anger, pain, and shame and being able to express our gratitude for something helps to remind us that there are things outside of ourselves that are good.

I'll start by sharing with everyone how grateful I am for having been given the opportunity to give back to MaleSurvivor and for the amazing moments this new role has afforded me so far. I'm also tremendously grateful for all the people who helped to make the conference last weekend our most successful one yet.

I would encourage others to share what they are grateful for, and if they are not feeling particularly grateful, it's ok to share that as well.

I hope you all have a safe and healthy weekend.

Please note, as of September 2016 I am no longer Executive Director. However due to a bug in UBB software that is still unresolved this label can't be removed.

#416935 - 11/22/12 03:28 PM Re: Thanksgiving Thoughts [Re: Chris Anderson]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my fraternal brother,

Wishing you the same well wishes on this uniquely American day.

I am thankful for this site, and all my brothers here, as they are my fraternal family.

Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

#416946 - 11/22/12 07:16 PM Re: Thanksgiving Thoughts [Re: Chris Anderson]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 01/01/11
Posts: 1598
Loc: California
I am lonely and extremely depressed and angry. But ill do another fucking gratitude list for things I should be grateful for because that's what I'm supposed to do... Even though there is absolutely no purpose or value in my life.

I am not grateful that I was tortured by my classmates, sexually abused and tortured by my cousin (and some other unidentified person), severely neglected by my mother, and born with two disabilities which cripples my ability to communicate with others. The trainwreck of my childhood continues to wreck any possibility of creating any real meaningful connection to others. I'm so excruciatingly lonely, and it gets worse with time, not better.

I'm unable to feel love or intimacy or closeness. Every fucking holiday season get harder and harder as I become older and more bitter and lonelier.

I hate life. Happy thanksgiving to those that have friends and family your close to. You are blessed.

#416948 - 11/22/12 07:32 PM Re: Thanksgiving Thoughts [Re: Chris Anderson]
Suwanee Offline
Chat Moderator

Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 1339

Edited by Suwanee (02/19/16 04:00 PM)
I've got this life
And the will to show
I will always be
Better than before

#416950 - 11/22/12 09:21 PM Re: Thanksgiving Thoughts [Re: Chris Anderson]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4285
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
i am thankful that i can talk about it all here
i am thankful that i can cry now
i am thankful that i can feel things again - even when not the best feelings
i am thankful for others who understand

How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?
Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....
Habakkuk 1:2-3

#416952 - 11/22/12 10:03 PM Re: Thanksgiving Thoughts [Re: Chris Anderson]
Publius Offline

Registered: 03/13/12
Posts: 444
Loc: OH
This site is really something special and I am happy I was welcomed here with open arms. I am thankful for you all, for the progress we have made, and for the healing still to come.
"Life is like this dark tunnel. You may not always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but if you keep moving, you will come to a better place." ~ General Iroh

#416953 - 11/22/12 11:23 PM Re: Thanksgiving Thoughts [Re: Chris Anderson]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 3852
I too am thankful for this site. It has helped me in ways many of you will never know. You have been there in the darkest of times. The people have hearts and understand the plight we each bear each day as we try to heal. We know the memories and pain will be with us for a lifetime. I am thankful for the survivors and supporters who stand by waiting to lift each of us from despair and celebrate our healing and when a set back comes--you are there.

Unfortunately we had to meet under these circumstances but I am thankful for each and everyone of you..

Edited by KMCINVA (11/23/12 12:29 AM)

#416957 - 11/23/12 12:09 AM * [Re: Chris Anderson]
Smalltown80sBoy Offline

Registered: 03/26/12
Posts: 2217

Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/29/13 05:04 PM)

#416958 - 11/23/12 12:11 AM * [Re: Chris Anderson]
Smalltown80sBoy Offline

Registered: 03/26/12
Posts: 2217

Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/29/13 05:04 PM)

#416968 - 11/23/12 02:04 AM Re: Thanksgiving Thoughts [Re: Chris Anderson]
WriterKeith Offline

Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 980
I am thankful I didn't give up on myself.

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