Newest Members
jez, Long Way Home, Bcbornleo, Orko, molander
13593 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
Etele (22), isign2u (55), Mark R. (66), noid (68), TheTraveler (55)
Who's Online
3 registered (LinEar, manipulated, anxietydepressio), 22 Guests and 3 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
13,593 Registered Members
75 Forums
70,677 Topics
493,602 Posts

Most users ever online: 418 @ 07/02/12 11:29 AM
Page 1 of 2 1 2 >
Topic Options
#416744 - 11/21/12 02:08 AM Hoping for support
nomorevic Offline

Registered: 11/19/12
Posts: 41
Loc: North Carolina
I am new to this site and hope to gain support from others who can possibly relate to the feelings I have. I am also hopeful that I may be able to offer encouragement and comfort to others.

Edited by nomorevic (07/31/13 02:31 AM)

#416756 - 11/21/12 03:51 AM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
Candu Offline

Registered: 07/01/12
Posts: 312
Loc: Canada
Yes there are others here that have had worse. But in no way is what you went through minor. What happen to you is inexcusable.

I'm glad that you have a good therapist to help you. I hope that your participation here will also help.

Thank you for posting your story.

Edited by Candu (11/21/12 04:15 AM)
Edit Reason: spelling

#416765 - 11/21/12 05:34 AM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
Metolius Offline

Registered: 02/09/12
Posts: 41
Loc: Oregon
Thanks for your courage in posting your story, which is a terrifying ordeal. Don't underestimate either the level of trauma you experienced, or your courage. I especially applaud everything you have done to protect your kids. God bless you for being so clear and strong on their behalf.

I hope you find a sense of community both online and with any other opportunity you might have to gather with other survivors. There is real strength in knowing we are not alone, either in our PTSD or on the path of recovery.



#416784 - 11/21/12 09:16 AM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
derrick Offline

Registered: 05/30/10
Posts: 94
Loc: North Carolina
Thanks for telling your story

Derrik here in Asheville

Hang in there
My Story

Alumnai of May 2011 DAHLONEGA (a life changeing event)
Alumnai of October 2010 WOR Hope Springs

#416794 - 11/21/12 01:07 PM . [Re: nomorevic]
ALovingMum Offline

Registered: 02/25/12
Posts: 51

#416810 - 11/21/12 03:10 PM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
Anomalous Offline

Registered: 03/07/10
Posts: 2240
Hi NoMoreVic,

Welcome to MS.

I am glad you have found this place of healing and support.

It is good that you have set very strict boundaries with your father. You know all too well the harm he causes and that he only cares about his needs and not the effects he has on others. I am sorry that you lost members of your extended family to whom you were very close. Sadly, they are not able to admit to themselves that you are telling the truth. However despicable, it is easier for them to make you out to be the bad guy than to admit the horrendous things your father has done.

Please do not do yourself the disservice of comparing your story to someone else's. The details may differ from story to story, but it is all bad. NO ONE should ever have experienced these abuses.

Take your time and look around. You do not want to trigger yourself by reading too many posts at one time.

At your own pace, read the boards and wander into chat. The lounge (chat) is open 24 hours a day though it isn't always populated.

We also have moderated chats called Healing Circles. They meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time and one on Tuesday at 19:00 UTC (European and African time zone) which translates to 2 PM Eastern US time zone. The Healing Circle on Tuesdays is scheduled to resume in January.

Again, welcome to MS.

Acceptance on someone else's terms is worse than rejection.

#416851 - 11/22/12 12:23 AM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
finallyopen Offline

Registered: 11/17/12
Posts: 69
Loc: Ontario, Canada
No one story "pales" in comparision to anyone else's .. we have ALL been victims and our stories relate .. that's why you get the understanding from people here .. other people who have not been victimized cannot really understand (especially as men) how difficult these memories are to heal or erase.

Welcome to MS
My Story :

#416906 - 11/22/12 08:20 AM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England

Welcome. Sorry you have to be here but glad you found us. It took courage to share your story. Keep pressing on for healing. You will find it.

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

#417240 - 11/26/12 12:01 AM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
nomorevic Offline

Registered: 11/19/12
Posts: 41
Loc: North Carolina
Thank you so much to all of you!
I think just hearing that I am not the one in the wrong and have every right to protect myself and my children makes me feel a lot stronger. Thank you to all who took the time to respond!!

#417246 - 11/26/12 01:07 AM Re: Telling my story, hoping for support [Re: nomorevic]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my fraternal brother, nomorevic.

Welcome to MS. here you will receive compassion, understanding & hope, from your brothers (fraternal) & friends (in pain).

We all have been there. We have been into the depths of our soul & hell too.

We will hear your cries. We will help in your fears & share in your tears.

You already are on board that emotional roller coaster ride of your life.

We have a lot to offer here in MS. Sunday evenings we have a moderated & in a safe room healing circle. Starts at 9pm Eastern. Also one on Wednesday evenings, same place & time. Just be here in chat about 10 minutes and wait for the moderator to ask anyone here for the HC. That is your invitation to attend. You can just sit back & see what's going on or you can actively participate, whenever you feel comfortable.

I am also a victim of incest, from my "mom." In a way i am fortunate as all my abusers are dead. I am 73 years old & have been in recovery for a shade over 4 years.

There are numerous guide books out there, you already have a therapist.

Plus you have your brothers here to help you & each other along on this trek to becoming a survivor.

So, my fraternal brother, nomorevic, wishing you well in healing, you are on your way here.

"I will take that lost boys hand, and I will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity." As he is me.

Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

Page 1 of 2 1 2 >

Moderator:  ModTeam, TJ jeff 

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.