my mom knew of the verbal, emotional and physical abuse, for sure. and i don't see how she could have missed the s*xual abuse. she was present at least once when it was going on. i think that she must have rationalized it away or denied it ever happened. she was good at not facing reality.
i consider her a co-conspirator, an accomplice, an accessory, a collaborator - and hold her as equally accountable and guilty with the primary perp - her husband and the step-father that was forced upon me. from the time i realized that she was not going to help me - i never trusted her again.
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"