my mom knew of the verbal, emotional and physical abuse, for sure. and i don't see how she could have missed the s*xual abuse. she was present at least once when it was going on. i think that she must have rationalized it away or denied it ever happened. she was good at not facing reality.
i consider her a co-conspirator, an accomplice, an accessory, a collaborator - and hold her as equally accountable and guilty with the primary perp - her husband and the step-father that was forced upon me. from the time i realized that she was not going to help me - i never trusted her again.
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"