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#410263 - 09/16/12 02:46 AM Which -- ?
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Which - ?

Which is better
To resist or just give in?
To fight back or to submit?
To struggle with all your strength
Or to cut your losses and surrender?
Passive resistance is not resistance;
It feels like acquiescence,
Like collaborating with the enemy,
An accessory to the crime:
Judged, guilty, condemned.

But if you do resist
Do you get credit for effort?
Is the length of the round before you were pinned
Worth extra points in your favor?
If the opponent draws blood,
Is it a mark of honor or disgrace?
A red badge of courage or a scarlet letter?
And how long does the battle last?
Is this just one of many skirmishes
Or the last battle?

Am I a perpetual hostage -
Bound, gagged and shackled?
A man in an iron mask
Or can the truth really set me free?
And do I really want to know?

Lee
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"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"

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#412044 - 10/03/12 12:42 AM Re: Which -- ? [Re: traveler]
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i talked about this with my T today.
i learned something:
i was not a helpless, passive victim.
i did have a choice -
there were not many alternatives -
and none of them were good ones.
it truly was the lesser of the evils.
but i had the freedom to choose.
and i chose the right one for me -
not passive, acquiescent submission.
not hopeless, futile resistance.
i chose stoic endurance.
i toughed it out.
and i survived.
and that in itself was a victory.
they did not control my mind.
they did not own my emotions.
in the long run,
i am free to choose now
how i think about this,
and how i define myself.

Lee
_________________________
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"

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#412071 - 10/03/12 09:58 AM Re: Which -- ? [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 07/23/12
Posts: 145
Thank you Lee!!! I needed to read this today so yhanks for sharing.
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"Those are not your sins" A wise man

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#412166 - 10/04/12 10:38 AM Re: Which -- ? [Re: traveler]
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