Hey Life, I'm not like you regarding those flashbacks nor other strange feelings. But I do have some traits that I can't directly connect to my past and it is sometimes confusing. Even I was just fondled by other boys and did some stuff with my own bro when I was 6 year old I can't say that I way abused in some violent manner. But man I have terrible strong hypervigilance. Sometimes it drives me crazy. It shows in some crowded places, it could be virtual place also. I've been searching for any sign of some danger there, where are kids, are they protected or not, where are exits and so on. It is like some program is running in my head in search for some risks. Even on this site my mind is trying to trace some signs of some things. Please don't doubt in yourself you are completely normal
Also I'm aware about several men in same position as your friend (and one is also like my lil bro) and my heart is hurting me a lot for them, things that I've discovered are more than shocking
I hate the fact that I'm not in position to do something.
I'm in hurry at the moment but I'll contact you later trough PM. I would like to discus it in private.