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#410166 - 09/14/12 11:26 PM Re: The Give Back Thread [Re: Obi]
Obi Offline

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1634
Loc: kansas
thanks to andy.... appreciate the respect you gave..

also, sorry... you know what for... nope, i didn't go back and look...
live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

#410169 - 09/14/12 11:56 PM Re: The Give Back Thread [Re: Obi]
Randy65 Offline

Registered: 04/14/12
Posts: 109
Loc: Alabama
Mad props to you Obi, for this thread. You will never know how many times you and the guys have helped me. The great advice, kick in the butt, support, caring, tears, and most of all love from you all, has gotten me where I am today.

When I first joined MS I was lost, scared and not sure if I could make it to tomorrow. I could just read posts and not bring myself to post a comment, much less post advice.

I am honored to post this thank you to you all. I owe you guys my life and promise to pay it forward.
God bless you all,
My Story of CSA

My Story of CSA: The Day God Entered My Heart

My Story of CSA: "Flashbacks" (Trigger Caution)

#411213 - 09/24/12 03:02 AM Re: The Give Back Thread [Re: Obi]
pbert53 Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 576
Loc: Washington, USA
Thanks Todd, ((((((((((Obi)))))))))))

Love you man!

Thanks for being there during my ordeal.


If you cannot control what happens to you, you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

~ adapted from: Sri Ram

#492203 - 12/06/15 08:39 AM Re: The Give Back Thread [Re: Obi]
betrayed boy Online   content

Registered: 01/14/15
Posts: 99
Loc: ny
nice topic obi,, I want to thank the guys in chat for the support, ANOM for all u do, running HC and the wisdom you share with others. theres really too many to name you all, but your all in my thoughts, and last but certainly not least my T Jan who has kept me somewhat sane and alive for the past 18 months or so also she steered me to MS for which I'm very thankful, BB

#492205 - 12/06/15 09:28 AM Re: The Give Back Thread [Re: Obi]
woodenshoes Offline

Registered: 06/04/14
Posts: 421
To all

Thank you for your friendships. I will treasure all the magical moments that all of you have helped in ways sometime by just posting. Others for pm and hc. Even the welcoming committee with there first communications when joining. Everyone here are special for one reason or another. Keep posting and i will keep reading. Thanks for the support to the ones that keep communicating with me in pm.



#492206 - 12/06/15 09:34 AM Re: The Give Back Thread [Re: Obi]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 3128
I must have missed this thread. Where I am today, hanging on by very thin thread, I think it is important that each and everyone here know you have given me the additional time I would not have if you had not reached out and given me support and hope. Over the past few weeks maybe months I have been struggling to just keep going and be alive. Your posts and PMs of support add much to my life. I always hope no matter what happens you remember that you are givers and gave me this time. You tolerated my outbursts, my rantings, my venting and so much more.

I think at times as I was healing I did not understand the value of the people in this healing process. I have come to realize there are those you do their best to lift us up and those that would kick a person who is down just to deny the truth of CSA and what has been done to take someone down.

I have met many wonderful people here, I have seen your struggles and when one achieves I smile and pray you have made that very important turn. I met some with similar situations as mine and they became good friends, I met others whose struggles were different but the same in other ways. Through it all I learned from you and you gave so much to me.

For my MS family I am forever grateful for the extra time you gave. I would be remiss not to mention others who are not here but may read this someday, thank you for your support and help over the years, my special friend and the friends she brought into my life for their love and support, my college friends who have stuck by me as I go through the many ups and downs, to other friends old and near, a relative by marriage who has reached out. The men from my other support groups have given me invaluable guidance and support as have doctors and therapist.

To those who did not know how to support, that is OK, you did what you knew. Sometimes silence is better than harsh words. To the people who made the journey impossible with lies, taunts and denials that triggered more than you will ever know, please take the time to reflect on yourself and realize you know squat about CSA and what it does to a person, you also know so little about triggers and how it resurrects a past in terrible ways that further destroy the victim/survivor, you know diddly about the trauma, CSA, dissociation, PTSD despite you saying I talked to a psychology student and they never heard of these or to the nurse who does not work with trauma or a doctor who does not understand trauma and abuse but works with families, you know little about yourself and how your sense of loss at a young age is reflected in your behaviors and how you treat others. I do hope you learn about yourself and more importantly do not push someone who is suffering from a past you know so little about to their end. Do not look back with guilt and shame, learn and show the courage you were not right and accept you are a product of what and whom you surrounded yourself. More importantly realize you can change and give to those who have suffered in ways that robbed a child of their life. Change is hard, accepting the truth of the past is hard but living in denial robs you of who you truly are and meant to be. There are support options, do you have the courage to face your past?

Everyone here, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have made a difference and whatever happens remember the good you did for me and so many others.

Thank you for this thread. It is important to acknowledge those who have given to us here.

#492207 - 12/06/15 02:28 PM Re: The Give Back Thread [Re: Obi]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3965
Loc: settling in the USA again
Reading this thread again made me cry. Some of the names mentioned have moved on and others have passed on. I miss them all.

But I am thankful for those who are still here and participating.

And I am also very thankful for those who have joined more recently and are helping to carry on the beneficial work of this community.

my heartfelt thanks to all who lend a "listening ear" and offer support, encouragement and insights from their own experiences.

We all need each other.
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

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