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#408242 - 08/28/12 11:07 PM Hi
hurting&tryingtoheal Offline

Registered: 08/28/12
Posts: 28

For now I'm just going to let you all know me by my screenname hurting&tryingtoheal. I'm 23 yrs old, and I've realized that I have some issues that I have not resolved which I hope to heal from, so that I can one day have a great relationship with a woman I love very much.

#408251 - 08/29/12 01:12 AM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
Afldman Offline

Registered: 07/12/12
Posts: 67
Loc: Pacific Northwest
Hi davesch, and welcome.

I was the exact same way...I was scared to post anything except the sketchiest of details.

I've been visiting this site for about two months now and am just now getting comfortable here. No hurry, no pressure. Sit back, take it at your own pase. You're among friends here.

"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them." -Daliai Lama

#408259 - 08/29/12 02:19 AM Re: Hi [Re: Afldman]
petercorbett Offline

Registered: 07/27/08
Posts: 2509
Hi, my fraternal brother,davesc.

Welcome to MS. Here you will receive compassion, understanding, hope & love, from your brothers (fraternal) & friends (in pain.)

We all have been there. We have been into the depths of our soul & hell too.

We will hear your cries. We will help in your fears & share in your tears.

Be prepared for the emotional roller coaster ride of your life.

Make yourself safe & comfortable here. take advantage of all that MS has to offer.

My fraternal brother, davesch, wishing you well in healing. You are on your way.

"I will take that lost boys hand, and I will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity." As he is me.

Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.

#408265 - 08/29/12 02:49 AM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
kcinohio Offline

Registered: 06/06/12
Posts: 511
Loc: Ohio
Hi davesch, Thanks for your introduction. Hope you find MS helpful in your journey.

#408374 - 08/30/12 04:11 AM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
Anomalous Offline

Registered: 03/07/10
Posts: 2138
Hi Davesch,

Welcome to MS.

I am glad you have found this place of healing and support.

Everything you say or do here is at your own pace; no pressure, no obligations.

At one time choice was taken from you. Here, everything you do is your choice.

You do not say whether or not you are in therapy. Therapy is invaluable when it comes to dealing with and getting through this trauma.

Take your time and look around. You do not want to trigger yourself by reading too many posts at one time.

At your own pace, read the boards and wander into chat. The lounge (chat) is open 24 hours a day though it isn't always populated.

We also have moderated chats called Healing Circles. They meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time and one on Tuesday at 19:00 UTC (European and African time zone) which translates to 2 PM Eastern US time zone. The Healing Circle on Tuesdays is scheduled to resume in September.

Again, welcome to MS.

Acceptance on someone else's terms is worse than rejection.

#408479 - 08/30/12 11:21 PM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
F.A. Offline

Registered: 09/02/11
Posts: 230
Loc: United States
Welcome I hope you find what you need and can have that relationship

To be sick is to be fragmented. To be healed is to become whole, and to become whole one must be in harmony with family, friends, and nature" -Navajo-

#408662 - 09/01/12 10:03 PM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
hurting&tryingtoheal Offline

Registered: 08/28/12
Posts: 28
Thank you everyone for the welcoming words. I appreciate them, though, this a difficult journey which I'm just starting.

Thank you,

PS Anomalous: I have a few things I'd like to talk to you directly about:
1. I would just like to let you know that I am in therapy and have been seeing the same therapist since I was in 7th grade.
2. I would also like to thank you directly for the healing circles tip. I may use it.
3. I am curious to know what it means to be triggered?

#431529 - 04/17/13 07:17 AM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
pbert53 Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 576
Loc: Washington, USA
Hey Davesch,

Triggered means that you read or see something that triggers a negative response in your mind. we use that to warn others who may be sensitive to a traumatic or detailed posting, that the post may be triggering.

Glad that you are here and hope you find a lot of useful and supportive experiences.

take care


If you cannot control what happens to you, you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

~ adapted from: Sri Ram

#431562 - 04/17/13 03:21 PM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
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Registered: 05/16/12
Posts: 1159
Loc: ""

Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 03:57 AM)

#431563 - 04/17/13 03:21 PM Re: Hi [Re: hurting&tryingtoheal]
bodyguard8367 Offline

Registered: 05/16/12
Posts: 1159
Loc: ""

Edited by bodyguard8367 (02/27/14 03:56 AM)


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