As an aside I went out on sat with a young couple who are out and proud. They are of the new generation that KC speaks of. They are unashamed and were both raised in a healthy a community so they've never been closeted. They also have the best words. They were calling people and places "bourgie" before the phrase itself became so bourgie.
Last sat they taught me about LUGs. Lesbians Until Graduation at which point the former lesbian is suddenly engaged to a power broker. Doug wondered aloud why this happened in plain sight for females but not for males. I saw he looked puzzled when I spoke to the stigmatizion men may feel, unlike females who enjoy somewhat of a higher stature as lipstick lesbians. Anyway he said I was very knowledgeable but that was simply because I was so old. Little wanker.
Finding humor in the heartbreak