Being honest and open with ourselves about our struggles is what helps us move through them to a healthier and stronger place.
Abuse damages and tangles and crosses wires with our sexuality, esteem, and relationships. Walking thru the process of talking about this and looking at how our lives have been affected by the abuse is KEY to recovery. Hiding onto shame and anger inside does not work and does not bring healing to those deep wounds.
We were introduced to and polluted by wrong and abusive sexuality and power- the desire to get justice somehow, re-enact the abuse, or have envy against sexually innocent people can be strong- and those paths only compound and accelerate the damage of the original abuse.
Finding healthy ways to get my needs for safety, nurturing, and intimacy, to. E heard, express my deep anger and sense of loss, grief and betrayal- those are where I need to out my efforts. And reaching out for help is a good first step.
We have to take responsibility for what we're not responsible for.
�It doesn't matter where you've come from,
It matters where you go" Frank Turner