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#40654 - 02/04/03 10:48 PM Update on Monday.
MrEdd Offline

Registered: 01/24/03
Posts: 341
Loc: Texas
I saw a "T" Monday and he was so full of shit.
I called an organization he recomended for sexual issues and asked if they had groups for dealing with CSA. The guy on the phone said I would be suprised how common a problem it was and that he himself was a convicted pedophile. It was so gross. I just got in the shower and sat there until the hot water ran out. I called a Rape Crisis hotline this morning and will see a female "T" Wednesday. if it wasnt for my wife and our church's generic recovery group I think I would take up drinking. That and I'm allergic to hops. look. I made sentences again today.

Some Things are not problems to be solved, rather, they are facts which must be coped with over time.

#40655 - 02/04/03 11:04 PM Re: Update on Monday.
Happy Birthday andrew-almost52 Offline

Registered: 10/31/02
Posts: 243
Loc: canada
Edd, like the song says .... ya better shop around. As a 20 yo, I punched out one of my first therapists. He tried to hypnotize me. It didn't work. He blamed me. I clocked him. I didn't have to tell him he was fired. I was put in a straight jacket and given a huge needle in the butt (haldol). The next T I got was fantastic. I then moved to another city and got another one years later. She was terrible. More screwed up than me. I then found an incredible one a little later. He helped me enormously. So, the moral of the around. Don't give up. A good T can make all the difference. Peace, Andrew

#40656 - 02/05/03 01:18 AM Re: Update on Monday.
guy43 Offline

Registered: 11/17/02
Posts: 450
Loc: Minnesota
Ditto shopping around for a T. It's ok to ask them their background and experience dealing with SA issues. There's a link here somewhere about 'interviewing' a therapist..

I'd also add that it can take some time once you find a T you're comfortable with. Building a trusting/theraputic relationship doesn't happen quickly, least not for me.

Stick with it MrEdd and don't give up.


#40657 - 02/05/03 03:04 AM Re: Update on Monday.
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5781
Loc: Lyons, CO USA
When looking for a therapist, check out:

Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse

#40658 - 02/05/03 01:31 PM Re: Update on Monday.
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
KSinger. Thank you for the post of the resource at Male I found it to be very helpful and informative. god knows I have gone through a lot of therapy and therapists.




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