I would have had a major problem with the T in the OP.
Beyond say yes or no and mean it, I disagree.
Love, yeah that's an elusive thing, few really ever find it, but it does exist, and it's amazing when you do find it.
Separate? Oh so we are supposed to abandon each other just because it's a little rough? Reinforce what has been done to us over and over form multiple angles? I don't think so.
Anymore there is so much emphasis on not being co-dependent that even a healthy turning to each other for support is getting labeled as such.
Yeah we might not have it exactly right but you know, stuff like that makes me glad there isn't a T that would be reasonable for either of us to go to - all too far away.