My husband, whom i love with all of my heart, is begging me not to leave. He answers some more of my questions on a very shallow level.
"Have you ever had rape fantasies? You raping someone or being raped?" i ask.
"Yes. Both," my husband replies.
"Who?" i ask. Angrily, "You sometimes. I imagined raping you".
"Anyone else?" i ask.
"I don't remember!" and the anger follows. He's admitted (eventually) to having fantasies about his sister, my mother, my sister, and every one of my friends and aqaintances, crew at work, women in the street etc.
" Did you fantasise about being raped or raping any of them?" i ask calmly.
" I don't fucking remember okay?!" Then he storms to his bedroom to sleep, i guess.
IF I DID NOT WANT TO HEAR AN HONEST ANSWER, THEN I WOULD NOT ASK THE QUESTION.
I don't care if he says, "Yes, i fantasised about being raped or raping so and so"
That would be honest, right?
Let me reiterate again, he does not think that he has been abused.
His family clearly have sociopathic tendencies. His mother has lost a job due to stealing. She is currently learning to drive illegally in the UK. She wants to be the centre of attention, she has ZERO empathy with others etc.
I love my husband, he has some lovely qualities, but all of this is just destroying us and i don't know what to do. HELP!