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#402171 - 06/29/12 11:02 PM LGBT-S (for Survivor)?
cant_remember Offline

Registered: 02/26/05
Posts: 1070

My story is so typical in these forums that it's almost redundant to mention it, but the super-short version is this: I don't identify as gay but I am attracted to white-haired men; I am attracted to women, but my relationships with them always end in tears.

I am not gay; I am not straight; I am not bi; nor am I trans. I am a survivor. That's what I am. The abuse eliminated my ability to have any identity that is currently discussed in the mainstream world, even in the LGBT community.

Therefore, I suggest that we as survivors advocate for those who advocate for the LGBT community to consider adding an "S" to their un-pronouncable acronym.

I do not identify as LGBT, but I could find a home under an LGBTS umbrella. We are survivors; that's what we are.

I'll be just fine and dandy
Lord, it's like a hard candy Christmas
I'm barely getting through tomorrow
But I won't let sorrow get me way down.

#402305 - 07/01/12 08:21 PM Re: LGBT-S (for Survivor)? [Re: cant_remember]
bcl092 Offline

Registered: 07/08/08
Posts: 29
Loc: Long Island, NY
I'm in a similar situation, maybe a little different. pm me if you want to talk.

#402528 - 07/04/12 07:43 AM Re: LGBT-S (for Survivor)? [Re: cant_remember]
pbert53 Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 576
Loc: Washington, USA
Good thoughts Cant Remember,

I have similar issues. I have been told I am a Sexual Anorexic. Like the food anorexic is afraid of food, the sexual anorexic is afraid of the sex in all its complexities.

Lots of shit happens with CSA!

I wish the best for your situation and that you may find answers and hope. I would be glad to hear from you, or bcl092, in a PM (private message) if you want to talk about anything.

take care you two


If you cannot control what happens to you, you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

~ adapted from: Sri Ram

#403788 - 07/16/12 03:49 PM Re: LGBT-S (for Survivor)? [Re: pbert53]
mh6893 Offline

Registered: 12/08/10
Posts: 35
Loc: Hong Kong
I'm in a similar situation. PM me if any of you want to chat.

Regards -


My profile photo is me around the time of my experience.


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