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#39996 - 06/15/03 05:29 PM Re: Fathers Day!
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Father's Day for me is the love my Daughter has for me.

My Dad physically abused me and that is why I ran away so often. He was also responsible for getting me into Military College where my journey into Hell started. I was, however, able to make peace with him 6 months before he died. And I miss him terribly. It has only been 2 1/2 years. He would have been 85 on March 26 last. Happy father's Day Dad.



#39997 - 06/15/03 06:12 PM Re: Fathers Day!
Marc Offline

Registered: 04/25/03
Posts: 256
Loc: Tucson, AZ
Happy Father's Day to my fathers and brothers too!

  • Waumei - Victor

  • TallSteve - Steve

  • Al - Need I say more? \:\)

  • Ivanhoe - David

  • Mikechurch - Mike

  • Nathan - Well actually 'Granpa's day' \:\)

  • Lloydy - Dave

  • ksinger - Ken

  • TheDean - Bob

  • SickPuppy - Josh

  • James - Again... need I say more?

  • Michael Joseph - MJ

  • Guy43 - Jer

  • DWF - Danny

  • Sonlite - John

  • Sleepy - Mike

  • Outis - Joe

  • MrDon - Don

  • Usel51 - Steve

  • Brian-Z - Bri

  • JK - The ever conservative Jack! \:D

  • JosephD - Joe

Hope I haven't left anyone out. You've all helped to get me to June 15th. Your guidance and support are what being a father is REALLY all about. Be proud of yourselves and what you've accomplished. You've all looked past your own abuse histories to help your sons/brothers. Not because of the abuse but because you all are who you are inside. You are ALL so much more than your abuse could ever be!

'Round of applause for you all and thank you so much. there's not a one of you that I wouldn't share a foxhole or a cup of 'Joe' with.

Thanks Dads!

#39998 - 06/15/03 08:56 PM Re: Fathers Day!
Sans Logos Offline

Registered: 05/31/03
Posts: 5796
Loc: in my own world in pittsburgh,...

Ditto. Expresses my feelings exactly.


Ron Schulz, MSPC, NCC

#39999 - 06/15/03 10:18 PM Re: Fathers Day!
Ivanhoe Offline

Registered: 03/19/03
Posts: 1907
Dearest Son, Marc,

Thank you for the tribute. You've done some "fathering/brothering" of your own around here, so include YOUR name on that list.

Say, did I miss an explanation from you, while I was away, about the change in avitars--I think that's what they're called--or were you just sneaking that one by us.

As I recall, you were a top banana, or something, weren't you?

And now I see this--what is it?--hour glass?

Is there a message in that, that isn't too subtle?

I had been getting ready to ask you if you were going to motor to Minneapolis for the conference and maybe join me in the sweat lodge ceremony--I don't know if I really have the stamina to actually do the sweat lodge--but I was going to invite you just the same--you know, I could cheer YOU on!

But now, I'm noticing this hour glass symbol by your name. Nothing more than you collect hour glasses, right?

Sometimes friends call one another out, looks like I'm calling you...........out.

That must have been my father hat,


"No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."
George Eliot

#40000 - 06/15/03 10:22 PM Re: Fathers Day!
ScottyTodd Offline
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Registered: 02/12/03
Posts: 1561
Loc: Pennsylvania
Father's Day was always a rough day for me also! But after my dad died, life sprung A-L-I-V-E!! Now Father's Day is spent with my children whom I respect and love and who show great love and respect in return. I talked for over an hour with my daughter and her husband in Florida - what a fantastic time!! Went to dinner with my two sons (and my beautiful wife) and had the time of my life (so proud of them all!!!). Although I never really had fathering, my joy is being a father..real father to my kids!!


" Real father's hug their kids" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you think you can or you can't - you're right!.......anon
It's never too late to have a happy childhood!.....anon
You're very normal for the abnormal situation you've been through..............S. Todd

#40001 - 06/16/03 01:18 AM Re: Fathers Day!
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline

Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5781
Loc: Lyons, CO USA
Yeah, it was a good Father's Day. Got a call from my son in Germany this morning, and had a nice chat. I then called my Dad and had a good conversation with him. He's almost 84 and you never know how long anyone is going to be around. Then, just before dinner, my daughter called from Ohio (she called earlier while I was out picking up some things for a really nice breakfast which included our first strawberries from the garden.)

Thanks, Marc, for the good wishes. Hope all had a good day as well.

It's just nice to reflect on the good things in life and appreciate loving and being loved.


Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse

#40002 - 06/16/03 02:44 AM Re: Fathers Day!
jimrh Offline

Registered: 03/22/03
Posts: 273
Loc: Roswell, GA
I'm glad some of you had a great fathers day.

For me, it has no meaning with regard to my father...only that I am a father myself.

Today my wife walked out, as she left I said happy fathers day.

Happy Fathers Day.

#40003 - 06/16/03 03:39 AM Re: Fathers Day!
Wuamei Offline

Registered: 08/19/02
Posts: 2700
Loc: The left turn I should have ta...

Fellow survivor I am so sorry.


"I can't stand pain. It hurts me."
--Daffy Duck

#40004 - 06/16/03 10:13 AM Re: Fathers Day!
lauraanimal Offline

Registered: 06/12/03
Posts: 58
Loc: montana
i never thought much about fathers day in the respect of the abuse my husband went threw at the hands of his "father". james tried to keep his abuse hidden from me untill a little over a year ago. even though i figured he had, i didnt know to what extent till then.

sence he has told me we have had 2 fathers days. not until today did i realize the impact of what this day might mean to him. he as never said a negitive word about it. even though he went threw total hell at the hands of his father. and i can only imagine what was asked of him on this day when he still lived with him. i shudder just to imagine it.

however in moving beyond that point, it makes today even mor special to me, and this is why;

james has never once sence we have had kids let them know what today might mean to him, not once has he complained of the pain it brings him . he stands strong in the sight of his children, they, never knowing what life could be like "if" he never tried and succeded in breaking the chain of abuse.

i am so proud of him and i want to say that is his

Happy Fathers Day sweety, YOU ARE ONE GREAT DAD!!!

wishing all here a good and happy fathers day, and cuddos for all those who also has broken that chain. (((((((hugs for all those that hurt today that wants them))))))))) i'm truely sorry for all of youthat suffered at the hands of there fathers.


always be true to your self and your heart.
dont forget to love yourself 1st, then the restwill fall into place.

#40005 - 06/17/03 03:27 AM Re: Fathers Day!
mattandrew Offline

Registered: 04/26/01
Posts: 376
Loc: Florida
Must be nice for those of you who are now fathers or actually have a father to take your old man out to lunch and spend time with him,for me fathers day sucks and the way i look at it is this,fathers day is just another day of the year,it comes and goes,just like my father did except for the factor of we all now call MALE SEXUAL VICTIMIZATION.Thanks to this factor i do not have a father,to me my old man is dead and has been dead for over 13 years,i wish that whoever came up with designing a calendar would remove the words "FATHERS DAY" from such calendar this way i would not have to be reminded of such unless i went out for the day and then you are bombarded by all the sales and advertisements for fathers day,just another reminder of the past every fathers day which for me i really do not want to deal with nor do i want to celebrate it.

Sorry guys not trying to squash anyone else's F'S DAY just bad memories for me.

Happy F'S day to all those men here that are F'S,hope you at least had a great day after the past.

M.A.N. ,
Boy who was trapped in society's nightmare & moving on thru healing & accountability.

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