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#394713 - 04/24/12 06:33 AM hi
rival Offline

Registered: 04/24/12
Posts: 1
Loc: Alberta
i am new.

i am also very lost.

just had two beers after 8 months.

I am lost

#394715 - 04/24/12 07:11 AM Re: hi [Re: rival]
Anomalous Offline

Registered: 03/07/10
Posts: 2106
Hi Rival,

Welcome to MS.

You are here among those who undestand, and you are no longer alone.

I am happy you have found this place of healing and support.

If you do not yet have a therapist I would strongly suggest getting one if you circumstances allow for it. Here is the Consumer's Guide to Finding a Therapist. It gives you a list of questions to ask a potential therapist. You want a therapist who is trained in trauma and/ or sexual abuse.

Explore all this site has to offer. We have a chat room (the lounge) for real-time support or if you just want to commiserate. We also have Healing Circles, which are moderated chats. The Healing Circles meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time (US) or Tuesdays at 19:00 UTC (European/ African time).

Again, welcome to MS.

Acceptance on someone else's terms is worse than rejection.

#394717 - 04/24/12 07:30 AM Re: hi [Re: rival]
peroperic2009 Offline

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3849
Loc: South-East Europe
Hi Rival and welcome to MS.
I'm sorry that you nee to be here, obviously you have some issue as we all have. Please don't be to hard on yourself, we all have some temptations and are feeling sometimes trapped with bad habits.
Share with as much as possible, try to learn what resources are offered here and look for way that suites you the best how to connect to brothers here. I've benefited greatly as I become part of community here.
Healing is possible!
My story

#394732 - 04/24/12 09:14 AM * [Re: rival]
Smalltown80sBoy Offline

Registered: 03/26/12
Posts: 2217

Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/28/13 09:31 PM)

#394865 - 04/25/12 05:21 AM Re: hi [Re: rival]
whome Offline

Registered: 05/07/11
Posts: 1739
Loc: Johannesburg South Africa
Hi Rival

Welcome to the site. At least you are amongst brothers here that understand.

Sorry that you needed to do that man, to mess up 8 months of sobriety, I know its tough, but don't see it as a failure rather as a learning experience.
Take the reason why you felt the need to drink and look at it and take steps to deal with it. Knowing what triggers you is Important.

Don't give up, this is a setback not a failure.

Heal well
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#394881 - 04/25/12 05:54 AM Re: hi [Re: rival]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 01/01/11
Posts: 1595
Loc: California
You're in GREAT company here. smile




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