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#395137 - 04/27/12 04:43 AM Re: Feeling LIke I'm not a Real Survivor [Re: ArtsyGuy]
jls Offline

Registered: 03/06/09
Posts: 1142
Your right that it takes a great deal of courage to talk about it, not just the abuse itself but also about how we try and minimize, deny and rationalize the abuse away. At the end of the day none of it stands up to the facts, that being that adults having sex with kids, whether they be preteens or teens, is just plain wrong, and that makes us survivors of terrible acts committed against us as children.

#395182 - 04/27/12 02:52 PM Re: Feeling LIke I'm not a Real Survivor [Re: jls]
Louis Offline

Registered: 04/26/12
Posts: 12
Loc: TX
I think we all feel this way at some time in our lives especially as we get older in our teen years. We feel like we should have stopped it or fought it off. The one thing that bothers me the most is knowing that at times in my teens I actually think I enjoyed getting to do it, it felt good. That is what I still find hard to fight and say I cant be a survivor if I enjoyed it any at all ever.
Men’s best successes come after their disappointments.

#395199 - 04/27/12 05:07 PM Re: Feeling LIke I'm not a Real Survivor [Re: Louis]
jls Offline

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Its that conflict between something feeling so good physically and feeling so disgusted about it emotionally that I had such great difficulty reconciling as a teen and still do today. Teenage kids coming of age are awkward about sex to begin with so having it forced on us by adults at that age can be very confusing.
Love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.

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