This is a very good topic and I truly like what MB said about knowing oneself.
I spent many years going from one sexual encounter to another and could never imagine that I would or could be with one person. I met many good men who offered this but I could not sit still long enough to take it in or appreciate it. I did not see myself as deserving a man like that and did not know what to do with him.
Now I find myself a completely different soul. I do not desire these encounters anymore and sex in and of itself is not appealing. I never thought that I would come to the point of preferring to make love to another and he make love to me rather than sex. I never thought I could be content in simply holding another and being held without necessarily it leading to more. I find myself more excited about those intimate and quiet moments than sex itself.
I think this, for me, has come as a natural evolution from my own recovery work and getting to know myself better. Allowing myself to be transparent and open to another and more honest than I ever thought capable. As I was told recently "you do not have to hide from me".
It does take conscious effort yet I truly think if we work on our recovery issues things like this can actually become a very natural thing for us. At least that is the case in my own life as I move on from from "the chatter" as MB stated above.
I truly wish all well in this important journey to a possible outcome.
Broad statements often miss their true mark.