I often find myself thinking about negative outlooks, and so to counteract this, I write out an argument for and against. I thought this might help someone here (I found this again when looking for paper this morning).
Trust (or lack of) for my friends.
1. It can't be possible that someone could care so much.
2. It can't be possible that someone can love me.
3. I can't believe what someone says.
4. I can't trust them.
5. I can't trust myself.
Negative arguments to the five statements.
1. I have mental problems, and I break down over and over again.
2. I'm not worth much. I'm broken and hurt. I'm confused.
3. I just can't believe it. They are telling me lies. I am so horrible that it just can't be the truth.
4. I've trusted people before. I've been hurt before. I can't take it anymore. I put up barriers to protect myself from them because they could hurt me, use me, and throw me away. I want to protect them from me.
5. I've made wrong choices in the past. I am quick to fall in love. I am quick to trust.
1. They do care that much. They are willing to do whatever is necessary to help me out. They've shown that over and over again.
2. I'm worth a lot because I help out, I make them feel good. I'm a good friend. They know I'm hurt and broken, and they want to help; not hinder healing. They know I get confused, and want to help me out.
3. It is the truth. I am not horrible. The only horrible thing is letting this get to me.
4. I can trust them cause they realize my pain. They want the barriers down and they want me.
5. They see those things as strengths, not weaknesses. We learn from our mistakes.