I read the article by Ken too and I know I'm not ready for disclosure or confrontation yet. I have allot of learning to do before that day. I think Pero has a good grasp on the thrust of this thread - get me through the day as quick and clean as possible. I may be ready for D&C by the time the reunion comes and perhaps after that, I'll take care of business. I just don't want to alienate everyone at the family reunion. But, of course all plans are soft till I get my wits about this.