not sure it would do any good, Esposa. some things you have to discover yourself. even with all the good discussion here, not sure i'd have gotten it even a few months ago.
Thanks for the encoragement, tho- and you too Jim and Good Hope
Weird thing tho - our perceptions are so different: she said it was like starting to turn an oceanliner - it will take a while to see the results... while i felt like i had just made an abrupt U-turn. a beginning for her, a HUGE reversal for me.
Maybe that is significant - and one of the problems in relationships - the difference in perceptions between partners on what is an insignificant thing and what is a BIG DEAL?
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"