not sure it would do any good, Esposa. some things you have to discover yourself. even with all the good discussion here, not sure i'd have gotten it even a few months ago.
Thanks for the encoragement, tho- and you too Jim and Good Hope
Weird thing tho - our perceptions are so different: she said it was like starting to turn an oceanliner - it will take a while to see the results... while i felt like i had just made an abrupt U-turn. a beginning for her, a HUGE reversal for me.
Maybe that is significant - and one of the problems in relationships - the difference in perceptions between partners on what is an insignificant thing and what is a BIG DEAL?
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"