Hardcore feminist answering here, so fasten your seat belt please.
(but don't throw your sense of humour out of the window!)
First of all, I do not believe at all that there is a war waged against men nor do I believe that they are oppressed and even less do I believe that women at large oppress men.
In my opinion, if you are male, white, live in an industrialised country and think you're oppressed it makes me wonder which planet you are living on.
There is wide spread discrimination against women in the work place, I've experience plenty of it myself - whether that is being paid less, than my male counter parts, being reduced to my uterus cause I'm still in child bearing age, to blatant daily, verbal sexism.
Then take a look at tv and magazine adds. Whether it's perfume or a Sihl's Chainsaws (or Pirelli tires) - it's women's bodies who are objectified to sell something and they are always, always portrayed as being sexually available, seductive. This is a picture that is pervasive and manifests itself in the conscience of our society. Imagine something absurd like "Always Ultra's Calender 2012" with naked, lucid, sexually available men...
Then, don't even get started on porn. It's appalling how much straightforward hatred there is against women. I've watched and awful lot and find 99% of it sickening, because of the way women are portrayed in porn. Fair enough, I've also met guys who 'watched too much porn' and thought if they don't perform like a porn star, something's wrong with them.
It is still women who are disadvantaged, because they do the majority of child care and in an aging society take care for the elderly. Those women miss out on building up a decent pension fund, end up poor when they reach retirement age.
Women who chose to work full-time and drop their children of at day-care are still often frowned upon. Whereas few men are asked how they intend to combine their career with child rearing.
Divorced mothers are the ones set up for poverty, women are economically no where near where men are.
So far, my opinion on the point that women are supposed to not be disadvantaged.
However, two wrongs doesn't make a thing right and I view feminism not as a "Men vs Women" fight. Imho, it is wrong to vilify all men and act as if they are monsters who spend their days oppressing women.
I do think that a lot of men suffer as much as women do from the patriarchal society.
One result of patriarchy is that women are seen as caring, vulnerable, available, etc. and are therefore allowed to be victims, it is accepted that they can get hurt - hence we are all willing to allocate resources to institutions that foster the advancement of women, care for abused, etc.
The opposite is that men are supposed to be the leaders, strong, manly, etc. Men don't get hurt, boys don't cry. So why should we allocate resources to help hurt men? Suck it up, if you're a real men. That is the common thought of society (not mine!).
I do think that we also must allocate as much help to males than we do to females. We must stop teaching boys 'not to cry and suck it up'. We should teach our boys that it's okay to cry and relieve those emotions, talk about them. It doesn't emasculate a man when he knows how to cook and enjoys to spend times with his children.
If the whole equation was more balanced, both men and women would benefit and we should all work together to better our lives.
Men would also benefit for instance if they could take parental leave. How many retired men have I spoken to, who spend lots of time with their grandkids and it makes them realise how much they have missed out with their own kid's childhood because they were supposed to take care of the family income.
And when I say it goes both ways, I mean it because interestingly I've recently read about a poll whose result was that working women are much more likely to view their income as 'theirs' not 'ours'.
Also, I guess each of us knows at least one woman who ends up doing all the housework because she's convinced her husband can't do it. I can hear them "oh, he just can't do the laundry." "He's just doesn't do the dishes properly." "Yeah, mine also hasn't got a clue." - and they rip the vacuum cleaner out of his hands and do it themselves. Oh dear, would I feel inadequate if I was that husband and it's no surprise if such a guy gives up.
We also do have to examine why the majority of prisoners are male, homeless, criminals, etc. Personally I do not believe that is because they are oppressed by women but it is a result of a strongly, conservative, patriarchal society.
As a feminist I would welcome if the issue would be treated more holistic instead of being reduced to women's issues only. I would welcome if more father's would be granted custody over their children, simply because just being a woman doesn't necessarily make you a good parent. But then as a society we'd also have to stop frowning upon woman who get divorced and decide to leave the kids with the father.
Oh my, this OP clearly hit a nerve with me! I better stop!