I second Ken's post about needing to have healthy skills around intimacy to heal the unhealthy damaged intimacy/sexuality many of us suffered.
Being non sexually intimate with self, friends, other men, and my relationships is the daily ground of recovery. If I do not know how to get those emotional needs met in healthy ways, I will unconsciously seek out ways that are indirect, unsustainable, damaging, and that trigger old feelings of hopelessness and being stuck or broken/unfixable.
Support groups, mentors, T, 12 step groups, etc. are all places I've learned to practice and become better at intimacy over the years. Perhaps the best training I've been thought is that of ManKind Project (www.mkp.org
)- they have weekend trainings that help me unblock the stuff that stands in my way of healthy living.